(Closed) Why can’t people just RSVP?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

Some of my family members didn’t RSVP to my bridal shower, which I’m afraid means they won’t be RSVPing to the wedding either. My mom had to call all of them and ask if they were coming and they acted surprised that she’d even ask. People are weird!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

id like to know the answer to this too! 🙁

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had alot of guests not rsvp and said they were just too busy, c’mon now, we stamped the response card and all they had to do was put it in a mailbox!  I had to practically call and hunt some guests down and some of them wasnt even sure if they were coming or not, so we ended up cutting out the people that didnt take it seriously, im not going to beg people to come to our wedding.  If its not important enough for them to rsvp or care then they shouldnt attend, we have a small guest list and there are many other people not on that list that would love to attend

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hear ya.  We still have some time… but already have people asking us “Do I really need to send the card back?  You know I’m going to come.”  Yesss… please send the card back.  It makes it easier, and how do I know if you’re actually coming or if you have plans that day?

I think some people just assume that you know that they’re going to come.  Odd, but that’s the impression I’m getting so far.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, i may be mean, but if someone doesnt rsvp, they will not have a place to sit.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I really wonder about this too. What part about RSVPing is hard?

-Deciding whether or not you’re going

-Finding a pen to fill out the card

-Filling in your name and your desire to come or inability to make it

-Mailing it in the pre-addressed, stamped envelope

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are having a small destination wedding, but still invited a good number of our friends.  NOT ONE of my fiance’s friends have rsvp’d.  They are due this weekend. 

I mean, we pay all this money for nice invites and rsvps, and for the stamps, and really you girls are right – they just have to pop them in the mail! 

He even tried to get in touch with them about it last night and only a few answered phones or replied to him.  I feel really bad.  He is trying to act like he doesn’t care, but I can tell he’s upset.  Always got the impression that his friends were jerks, now I know for sure!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have to say, before I was a bride myself I was the WORST about sending in RSVP cards.  Absolute worst.  I would put them in my to-do pile or tack them to my fridge, meaning to mail them in later, and totally forget until the last minute or until the poor bride called/emailed me. 

That being said, I know it’s not hard, but people sometimes still forget- unlike us, their #1 priority is apparently not our weddings. 🙂  I fully plan on calling people the day or two before my final numbers are due to my caterer who haven’t sent their RSVP cards. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

oh jeeze… this is what i have to look forward to.. I’m sorry that they arent rsvp’ing. 🙁

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My “RSVP by” date is fast approaching (April 30th) and there’s still about half of them to be returned!  I’m probably going to be making a lot of phone calls. 

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Several people didn’t RSVP to our wedding too, so I assumed they weren’t coming!  It’s easier for me to brush it off only because we’re having a Destination Wedding in Aruba, but still I was a little peeved!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I feel like with a destination wedding, that you know about in advance, then you should know if you’re going or not and be able to get that RSVP back before the wedding date!!! But alas, some people don’t know and I will def be that bride calling people to see what’s up!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our RSVP deadline is today. I haven’t even received my MOM’s.  Obviously we know she’s coming, but come on, Mom! 

We started emailing people last night telling them they don’t have to send the card but they do have to tell us if they are coming and what they want to eat.

I’m a vegetarian so I keep threatening people that if they don’t tell us their meal selection I will choose for them and they will miss out on the juicy steaks.  That has gotten more than one person to send their cards in right away.

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