(Closed) Why can't people use the Registry?!?! *Vent Warning*

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

If you can’t return them, maybe you can re-gift some of the things you have duplicates of… just make sure that whoever you gift it to has no contact with the person who gave it to you!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@UJSMCWG06:  Give away the old one, then? πŸ˜‰ Maybe to charity? Could it be cleaned and sanitized? That way at least you’re helping someone else, although I definitely understand that you want wedding gifts that were something you really needed and by giving away something, you’re right back where you started. 

Now I’m sure I’m going to have a registry. O_O 

Post # 6
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do you know what store they’re from? If so, you may be able to return them even without a receipt.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s life. Some people like to pick things out themselves. And I think it’s a fact of life that a certain proportion of gifts (for any occasion) are useless. It’s not worth worrying about.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Give it to charity. It can only do good, maybe someone will be able to buy it at a thrift store and get a nice present for someone that they wouldn’t be able to afford otherwise. That can only bring you good karma!

And when you use the chopper you currently have, you can think fondly of grandma and how she wanted you to have an easier life and be able to chop with abandon! But you don’t haveto keep the one she gave you.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Give away the old ones (unless th enew ones aren’t your style, then donate those).  I would prefer for people to use the registry but the majority of people don’t. I don’t care really.  I love gifts… in your case though it seems like you got gifts you really don’t need or won’t use so that does suck.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hear ya! Most people bought from the registery or gave cash. One person gave us a random serving tray thing with a scene of Italy and the word “italy” painted on it-no clue why-we’ve never been to Italy, aren’t Italian, etc. It is a waste of space and I want to regift it/get rid of it but Darling Husband doesn’t want to cuz it was his parents friends gift. Also received a random windchime which terrifies the dog and some regifted serving bowls from a couple who got married a year before us who we gave a nice registery gift to and we never received a thank you note which is a huge pet peeve!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I usually buy off the registry for weddings for just this reason…I want to be sure the gift is wanted and will be used.

However, the registry is really just a suggestion to your guests, it’s not a requirement.  And if you’re not going to use the off-registry items you received, you’re not going to use them – even if his grandma gave one of them to you.  Once it’s given, it’s yours to do with as you please.  I say it’s time to donate!

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I NEVER buy anything off registries. I really dislike being told what “acceptable” gifts are. I always give cash and I have never gotten any complaints.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

All of the physical gifts we received at our wedding were off-registry.  We had gotten a bunch of registry stuff at the shower so it wasn’t a huge deal, but I was kind of like “Huh?”  But whatever, we liked most of them (including, but not limited to, some of the most gorgeous wine glasses ever.  Glad that couple went off-registry!)

Post # 14
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244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

give away or sell the old stuff and use the new!

that is very frustrating though when they don’t go by the registry!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That can be really frustrating. I think some people just don’t know that you prefer registry gifts (though for the couples it seems intuitive). A friend of mine recently told me that until she got engaged she didn’t realize that you were supposed to get things off the registry, she thought that registries were for the unimaginitive people who couldn’t think of anything else. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@UJSMCWG06:  I don’t think there is anything wrong with taking it back. Your friends and family would probably like you to have gifts that you can enjoy and use. If they knew that you had 2 choppers already, I am sure they would not be offended at all if you took the 3rd back for cash or credit.

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