Post # 1
I just got back from our wedding/honeymoon and we arrived to find our gifts 😀 YAY! Super excited right?! Well aside from mostly money (which is what we wanted) we did receive about 5 other gift-gifts. I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but I really don’t like getting rid of things especially when it’s something a family member bought for me. Well. I received an Electric Skillet (not on the registry…now I have two, I don’t even use the first one), a chopper (also not on the registry…now I have 3), Coasters (not on the registry…we don’t even have a coffee table or end tables to use them with!!), 16 sets of two types of placemats and 16 sets of two types of napkins (not on the registry….we already have 8 placemats and we don’t really use cloth napkins). Everything else was money and there was about 3 gifts that were taken from our registry. I am so annoyed and I understand that people don’t want to just give money and they want to get a personal gift and that’s fine — USE THE REGISTRY! I have been living on my own for around 6 years and my husband had been living on his own for a good 7 years. I really really am not trying to sound ungrateful, I really appreciate it, but I WANT to be able to use people’s gifts and put them to use and think about them when I’m using it. Seriously — a third chopper? It’s stuffed in my highest cabinet and I won’t take it down probably until 10 years from now when I’m doing some serious Spring cleaning. I just feel like people wasted their money on gifts we didn’t NEED. I’m a very “get-it-if-i-need-it”. I don’t like having multiple appliances, it’s a waste and I rarely need more than one chopper…if I need to use one again, I’ll wash it. So frustrating!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
If you can’t return them, maybe you can re-gift some of the things you have duplicates of… just make sure that whoever you gift it to has no contact with the person who gave it to you!
Post # 4
I just feel bad because the chopper was from his grandmother :/ What if it’s like bad Karma or something!?! I don’t know…I just feel bad about getting rid of it and giving it to someone else 🙁
Post # 5
@UJSMCWG06: Give away the old one, then? 😉 Maybe to charity? Could it be cleaned and sanitized? That way at least you’re helping someone else, although I definitely understand that you want wedding gifts that were something you really needed and by giving away something, you’re right back where you started.
Now I’m sure I’m going to have a registry. O_O
Post # 6
Do you know what store they’re from? If so, you may be able to return them even without a receipt.
Post # 7
That’s life. Some people like to pick things out themselves. And I think it’s a fact of life that a certain proportion of gifts (for any occasion) are useless. It’s not worth worrying about.
Post # 8
Give it to charity. It can only do good, maybe someone will be able to buy it at a thrift store and get a nice present for someone that they wouldn’t be able to afford otherwise. That can only bring you good karma!
And when you use the chopper you currently have, you can think fondly of grandma and how she wanted you to have an easier life and be able to chop with abandon! But you don’t haveto keep the one she gave you.
Post # 9
Give away the old ones (unless th enew ones aren’t your style, then donate those). I would prefer for people to use the registry but the majority of people don’t. I don’t care really. I love gifts… in your case though it seems like you got gifts you really don’t need or won’t use so that does suck.
Post # 10
I hear ya! Most people bought from the registery or gave cash. One person gave us a random serving tray thing with a scene of Italy and the word “italy” painted on it-no clue why-we’ve never been to Italy, aren’t Italian, etc. It is a waste of space and I want to regift it/get rid of it but Darling Husband doesn’t want to cuz it was his parents friends gift. Also received a random windchime which terrifies the dog and some regifted serving bowls from a couple who got married a year before us who we gave a nice registery gift to and we never received a thank you note which is a huge pet peeve!
Post # 11
I usually buy off the registry for weddings for just this reason…I want to be sure the gift is wanted and will be used.
However, the registry is really just a suggestion to your guests, it’s not a requirement. And if you’re not going to use the off-registry items you received, you’re not going to use them – even if his grandma gave one of them to you. Once it’s given, it’s yours to do with as you please. I say it’s time to donate!
Post # 12
I NEVER buy anything off registries. I really dislike being told what “acceptable” gifts are. I always give cash and I have never gotten any complaints.
Post # 13
All of the physical gifts we received at our wedding were off-registry. We had gotten a bunch of registry stuff at the shower so it wasn’t a huge deal, but I was kind of like “Huh?” But whatever, we liked most of them (including, but not limited to, some of the most gorgeous wine glasses ever. Glad that couple went off-registry!)
Post # 14
give away or sell the old stuff and use the new!
that is very frustrating though when they don’t go by the registry!
Post # 15
That can be really frustrating. I think some people just don’t know that you prefer registry gifts (though for the couples it seems intuitive). A friend of mine recently told me that until she got engaged she didn’t realize that you were supposed to get things off the registry, she thought that registries were for the unimaginitive people who couldn’t think of anything else.
Post # 16
@UJSMCWG06: I don’t think there is anything wrong with taking it back. Your friends and family would probably like you to have gifts that you can enjoy and use. If they knew that you had 2 choppers already, I am sure they would not be offended at all if you took the 3rd back for cash or credit.