Post # 1
well, we had been engaged for just about a month-and i had my first emotional break down–goodness, i would have thought i could have made it four weeks at least! what led to it, something i should have been able to let roll off my shoulders, I know, but for some reason I just can’t
anyways, i know that weddings bring out everyone’s opinion, but i guess that this one through me for a loop. my fiancee and i are super lucky to have two amazing families that support us and we are both super excited to celebrate our marriage – and our families- with a big (for us) party. well, we went to a party for a family friend of hers last weekend and were informed that we “better not have a big wedding” by that friend. WHAT?!?! She went on and on to say that each family can only have one princess (yes, I get that my FW doesn’t look like a princess-type at first, but that doesn’t mean she isn’t looking forward to a wedding/party). She kept saying that her sister already had the princess wedding, so she needed to not put stress on her family and she needed to not have a wedding-mind you all of this in front of me & FI’s father. Then she turned to me and said well, maybe uf you are the princess in your family, they should pay” again-WHAT?!?! it probably wouldn’t have hurt so much, but she is a close family friend and I am so worried that other people think this way as well. To be honest, we are planning on paying for a lot of our wedding, but we would like both sets of parents to help if possible (i would expect my other half’s parents to participate – if they were able to financially-whether i was marrying a man or a woman). I just couldn’t believe how much she went on and on about how we didnt deserve a wedding because her sister already had one. We left the party and I barely got in the car before starting to bawl about the fact that people thought we didn’t deserve a wedding and no one was excited for us-how could I let one person get me so upset??
i really didn’t expect this and i thought that people would in general just be happy and want to celebrate-i guess i shouldn’t have been so naive. Now i am just worried that the whole time we will be planning, she is going to be judging us. 🙁
Post # 3
seriously WTF? what is wrong with people?! i have no words.
Post # 4
She sounds crazy to be honest. What business is it of hers what kind of wedding you have or who pays for it? And only one princess per family? What kind of nonsense is that? I can’t imagine anyone telling my husband that only one of his girls can be a princess..and the other has to accept less. Insane.
You are right that she may judge you. But why do you care what someone that is obviously loopy thinks? Until you hear that your FI’s family feels the same way, I’d just ignore this “friend” and her ramblings.
Post # 5
the big mouth is way out of line and you deserve whatever wedding you want and can afford – if she starts again i would call her out loudly and publically and ask her why she thinks that you and your Fiance dont deserve a wonderful wedding
Post # 6
I don’t blame you for getting upset, getting married can be stressful and sometimes it can feel like your being judged but that woman had NO RIGHT to tell you what kind of wedding you should have. I am shocked that she had the balls to say something like that. Also, i’ve never heard of a rule that only one sister can have a wedding. You have what ever kind of wedding you want and if I were you, I’d have a huge wedding and tell her to kiss my butt.
Post # 7
She is probably just jealous of something. Just try to block her opinion out. Of course there can be two princesses!
Post # 8
Don’t let one moron ruin the planning for you – lots of people have more than one child they help with wedding expenses, you aren’t the first one. Just ignore her, and proceed like normal.
Post # 9
I would have flipped her off and told her where to stuff it.
Post # 10
Wow, that is not remotely her business. And what a bizarre way of looking at things! I would think that it would be important for me as a parent to give equally to my children. WTF? What a weirdo.
If it’s any consolation, I’ve never heard anyone express this before, so I think your family friend’s way of thinking is not the norm.
Post # 11
I didn’t understand all that-but she sounds crazy to me. Don’t let her or anyone else bother you.
Post # 12
@MissKabers: oh thats so awful. obviously there are some jealousy issues there or potential ones. Maybe she is afraid you will one up her sisters wedding and people will talk about yours and that is making her jealous. Either way she should have NEVER said that to you …..so awful.
The thing about being a bride is i think you worry alot about what people are thinking. I sSTILL wonder what people thought about our wedding (was it to low key or was i too pretentios..) and it gets to you…you get worn down emotionally and that leads to crying sometimes. So dont feel bad that you cried..its normal.
and for the sake of all that is good…avoid that woman!!! it sounds like she is missing her social filter!
Post # 13
That’s just stupid. I agree with PPs – she is jealous or something.
Post # 14
Try not to worry about her, honey. She obviously is a little off balanced.
Post # 15
Don’t even think about it. When you come from a family with several girls, how could you not expect every single of their wedding to be special? I have 2 sisters, and I hope that their weddings will be as big, if not bigger, that ours! She is just a spoiled kid, ignore her!
Post # 16
What a jerk face! I’ve never heard the ‘one princess’ sentiment, either. I think she might have pulled that one out of her butt (self-edited language here, lol). I’m sorry she was so mean, but it sounds like her crazy ideas are just her own, and your fiancee’s family doesn’t share them :(.