(Closed) Why can’t we all be friends?

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree!!!  I always read my thread over and over again before I post. Even after I post, I read it over to make sure I’m not offending anyone.

I don’t know why the boards have changed but it was very nice around here when I started coming here about a year ago.  I guess maybe since this site is so popular now, that maybe everyone doesn’t know how nice and supportive we are.

You should do what I do and ignore the bad ones and post a happy thread instead.

🙂

Post # 5
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree too. I just try not to “snark” back and add to the problem. I don’t feel good about myself when I do that.

Post # 6
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3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think a lot of the hot button posts could be avoided if everyone kept a few good rules in mind:

 

1.  Re-read your post before you hit submit. Try not to just fire off a post as quick as you can type. Make sure you are clearly stating your point and/or questions.

2. Think about how others will read your post. Will they take this as a personal attack? Will they understand the point you are trying to make? Does the post contribute and provide value to the discussion or is it really just stirring things up?

3.  Agree to Disagree. Everyone will have different opinions. Try as best you can to state your opinion with your justification and then leave it alone.

4.  If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all. This doesn’t mean we have to be all clouds and butterflies around here, but if you can’t contribute constructively to a conversation then leave negative comments off of here. If you don’t like a dress, don’t just say, “Ew Yuck” rephrase to say, “I think it would look nicer with …..”.

5.  Let posts die. If a post really is getting heated, the best thing that can be done is to just let it die off. Ignore potential trolls and their comments. If you follow suggestions 1, 2, 3, and 4 you really shouldn’t be posting too much that they can comment on.

 

Post # 7
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1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@caszos: “5.  Let posts die. If a post really is getting heated, the best thing that can be done is to just let it die off. Ignore potential trolls and their comments. If you follow suggestions 1, 2, 3, and 4 you really shouldn’t be posting too much that they can comment on.”

This is so important! Some posts just need to be ignored so they can fall off the first page.

Post # 8
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101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I totally agree too! It seems like an innocent post like “look at my cute dog!” would lead to some kind of drama. Let’s all just get along! 😀

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