- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I know my wedding is pretty far off but I’ve been trying to plan a lot ahead of time to make things less stressful. All I’m finding is that Im really starting to hate wedding planning. Maybe I’m just bummed in general, but I just needed to get all this stuff of my chest and I figured this would be the most supportive place to do so.
1st off… the fmil. I can’t stand the way she treats me and how completely unsupportive she is. She bashed all of my ideas, which I’ve accepted because I don’t need her approval. The downside is that she had paid for my fiance’s older brothers ENTIRE reception and catering costs yet she told us that because she didn’t like my theme (subtle beach, aka more of a colour inspiration than anything) and choice of venue (which actually is a very nice hotel) that she wasn’t going to help us out. I had already fallen in love with the venue before her helping was even considered so I’m now stuck chosing between some place I absolutely love or major help when our budget is already incredibly tight (we’re students).
2nd. The 2nd place that I really like and the place fmil would agree to help us with the wedding if I picked it, just so happens to be an absolute cross off the list. Why? Because my mom and stepdad were married there and are currently going through an awful divorce (to the point where my family won’t even discuss him ever existing) and obviously getting married in that exact same spot would pretty much guarantee an upset family on my side by bringing up the past. And I refuse to do that just so I can get financial assitance from my fiances mom who is very well off.
Because I’m having a beach theme (I love anything to do with a beach and it would be my dream wedding, well as close to a destination on the beach wedding as possible while staying in my city) it significantly reduces the number of venues that would work in the area. Most are too historic looking and theres no way within a reasonable decorating budget that they could work. So now Im so stuck and honestly I don’t want anything to do with wedding planning anymore.
If it wasn’t for how close I am to my parents I would’ve eloped by now 😛 There are so many other issues going on right now, most aren’t wedding related but I am honestly dreading this wedding (not the getting married part, im 100% excited for that). The major reason I need to figure everything out now is budget, because we need to figure out how we are going to afford everything while still paying tuition. Otherwise I would gladly put it on the back burner for another year.
Anyways, how do you ladies deal with everything when it gets so stressful? I just don’t know what to do and I really don’t want to deal with it anymore! Thanks for listening!