Post # 1
My SO was texting me while he was in class today saying he was so horny he wanted to come straight over after school just to go down on me. Well he did, then one thing led to another, and we started having sex. However, he wasn’t able to keep an erection. I don’t get why all that talk only for him to not be able to get hard in the end. I know it supposedly has nothing to do with me, but it’s hard not to take it personally.
Post # 2
Maybe he got too excited too quick.
Post # 3
It could have been a million different things. Maybe he had low blood sugar. Maybe he was tired. Maybe he needed to pee. Maybe he had a weird thought pop into his head. Maybe his balls itched.
Does he regularly lose his erection? I think you should just cut him some slack…
Post # 4
desertgypsy : Once in a while. He has some anxiety issues which don’t help. I just wish I knew for sure it wasn’t me!
Post # 5
How should we know the answer to this?
Post # 6
paigelove : Did you ask him if he was ok? What did he say?
Post # 7
You’re being kind of selfish. You make it sound like his ED is okay as long as you know you’re not the cause. I know this is upsetting, but he obviously has desire for you. He deals with regular anxiety. It’s most likely psychological. Now try and be supportive and accepting and get to know him.
Post # 8
Erections ebb and flow. A guy can have his erection soften and then reharden multiple times in one lovemaking session. A big part of what helps combat that is familiarity with how bodies work and neither of you getting caught up in bullshit stories about what it means that the blood flowed away from his dick for a moment.
Don’t you have times where you’re riding the waves of pleasure and then a thought or an unpleasant sensation (or some inexplicable and random thing) comes and interrupts for a moment? Then you have to get back into the experience.
Unless he has some serious health concerns, the best thing to do when the passion (and the blood associated) have a momentary ebb is to slow down, reconnect, maybe shift positions to one that helps with blood flow more and neither of you freak out about it.
Post # 9
Real talk- Did you actually think anybody could answer this?
I don’t mean to be rude but……how old are you? Have you really never experienced this ever before in your sex life—-either for your partner or in your own level of being turned on?
The answer could be anything at all. He’s tired, he’s hungry, he got over stimulated earlier, random blood pressure fluctuation, performance anxiety, passing thought of professor snape. How would we know? If it’s not an occasional thing there is nothing to think much of or worry about. If it’s common, he should talk to his doctor. It’s not like the sec had to stop just because he isn’t erect——as you seem to already know, there’s plenty he can do with other parts of his body.
Post # 10
Did you try and help him keep an erection or just stared and he limp noodle?
Sometimes men need foreplay too regardless of what they said lol
Post # 11
My husband and I have been guilty of this multiple times lately, where we’ll text each other during the day about how horny we are at work and detail all the naughty stuff we want to do when we get home, but by the end of the day one or both of us is too tired to follow through. Normally we both have high sex drives, but I’ve been getting burned out at a stressful job with a long commute (looks like I’ll be switching to something more conducive to work-life balance in the next few weeks though), and my husband has also been extremely busy at work and has been doing a lot of driving to make out-of-state deliveries, so lately both of us are exhausted by the time we get home. Has your SO been very tired or stressed recently? That can easily affect his drive.
But every guy loses an erection at some point for whatever random reasons. Like others said, maybe he was hungry, tired, stressed, thought of something that distracted him or turned him off momentarily, had “whiskey dick” from drinking, whatever. If this happens frequently (like almost every time you have sex) then he should discuss it with his doctor, but if it’s only a once in a while occurrence, that’s totally normal and has nothing to do with his attraction to you. Usually if you keep going with other sexual activities, he’ll be able to recover, so keep that in mind for next time.
Post # 12
personaperson : “Passing thought of Professor Snape” 😂😂😂
Post # 13
Is she prettier than me?
Do I look fat in this?
Its been two months, will be come back?
Is the grass greener on the other side?
Why was he staring at that girl?
Is the moon made of cheese?
Why did he lose his erection?
are all eternally mystifying questions that will never be resolved definitively.
If he gives himself a hand job in the morning it may help him last when you two meet after class. You’re welcome.
Post # 14
paigelove : You sound bewildered. I take it this is your first limp noodle…