(Closed) Why did he tell me?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
845 posts
Busy bee

Given that he’s bought you a ring, the likely reason he hasn’t proposed is because he’s waiting for a specific date or occasion and still planning the proposal.

Why did he mention that he had the ring? Well, maybe he wanted to make it a surprise but was so excited he couldn’t keep it from you. Alternatively, maybe he’s trying to reassure you the proposal is coming so you’re not anxious. Doesn’t sound like he’s being cruel – maybe just a bit clueless ๐Ÿ™‚  I’d say, be patient for a bit longer and I’m sure the proposal is coming.  

Post # 4
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Try not to bug him. My Fiance kept saying, “soon.” Little did I know that he already had my parents’ permisssion AND the ring. (Permission granted 12/09, ring picked up 2/10… Proposal… 9/29/10.)

Apparently i ruined his original proposal plan in March by having the flu… He had planned to fly me home for my MOH’s bday back in the midwest, then meet me at the airport. Obviously, I couldn’t go.

Then he started interviewing for promotions and his schedule got hectic. In the end, his proposal was perfect.

Let him have fun with it! And good luck! I was a WRECK!

Post # 5
2200 posts
Buzzing bee

Try to be patient- it sounds like he is waiting for something special to propose. I am sure it will be soon enough.

Post # 7
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I went through pretty much the same situation a year ago. Just after Christmas my Fiance had bought the ring (I didn’t know it at the time) and then sometime in late January he told me about it. I was really excited to know he was going to propose, but it did take some of the fun out of it. He had ended up surprising me about a month later with it so I think your bf might just be trying to build up a sense of surprise again by making you wait a bit longer.

It’s really hard to wait for, but not knowing when it will happen made it more fun when it did, so try to be patient ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

If you’re bf is like my bf, he’s just trying to torture you because he thinks it’s funny.  Mine will tell me that he got me a present and then not tell me what it is and hold on to it for a couple days just to bug me.  I hope yours doesn’t keep you waiting too long!

Post # 11
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@BOSOX11: Lol well my Fiance told me because he simply got so excited one day that he just blurted it out when we were driving somewhere. lol It came out of nowhere and was just “I bought you an engagement ring!” lol. I was a little bummed that he told me, but he was just so excited and we tell each other everything so I think he just couldn’t keep it a secret anymore. It was actually pretty cute lol.

He didn’t show it to me either, just wanted me to know that he had it because he was really excited. Maybe that’s why your bf told you? I don’t think they do it to be mean or purposefully ruin the surprise, sometimes if you’re just using to always sharing secrets it gets hard to keep such a big one.

I hope he figures out his plan for you soon though! ๐Ÿ™‚ And congrats because it still is super exciting that he has the ring!!!

Post # 12
3134 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hope it happens for you soon!  He was probably just so excited that he told you.  My bf has my ring too (we picked it out together so I’ve seen it and know he bought it).  But he’s had it since the beginning of December and I’m still waiting – 3 months already!  I thought it would be easier knowing it’s that much closer, but actually I think it’s harder.  So I hope you don’t have to wait as long as me!

Post # 13
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with the poster who said he’s probably just clueless, lol. My man was certainly clueless, but I know now he meant no harm – he told me “I’m going to ask you to marry me soon” and didn’t propose for another 2+ years after that (oh, how I wish I had known about the weddingbee waiting form then!) But if he has the ring, be content in the fact he is 100% certainly going to propose EVENTUALLY ๐Ÿ™‚

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