(Closed) Why did so many women wear white to my wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

This is a super old post, and I apologize for ressurrecting the dead, but it came up in search and I just HAD to share. This is my aunt. She wore the same dress to my sister’s wedding. The only reason I didn’t throw a tantrum was because she handcrafted all of the flowers, bouquets, center pieces, garlands, etc, and she EARNED it. But…not only did she wear white, but we almost matched, haha.

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Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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snpmarin:  Wow that’s a little insane! 

Post # 48
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Honey bee

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snpmarin: Oh, Lordy! And can you see-through to her undergarments, too?  

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Maybe…Not in person at all, but in the picture, you can. She’s VERY into tanning, so it’s not surprising to see that much of a contrast between her tighty whities and her skin. I didn’t even notice!

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

The lace one sounds a bit much, but ones with black on them really bothered you? Most people aren’t assuming that brides will worry about a dress that has some white on it, along with other colors. 

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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peegee:  This is an old thread. I resurrected it. :-\

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Eh, younjust don’t wear white to a wedding, period.

 

Although, back in the day I wore a white pantsuit with a pink top to a friend’s wedding.  I wonder now if that was rude????

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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melissa809:  i can understand all white dresses being rude to wear to weddings, but I wish I could wear pretty dresses that have white backgrounds on them with coloured flowers over the white. 

I hate that it’s a faux pas and I don’t want to ask the people getting married. Sigh. 

I also won’t care if people wear white to my wedding. Pretty sure I’ll be the only one with a poofy dress and veil 🙂 

Post # 54
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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EmEv:  Well for what it’s worth, by my count it’s 4 women. If the one dress was black all over the front I don’t think it matters what the sides and back were. 

Still, I call bullshit on the idea that you have to read wedding blogs to know not to wear white. My fiance is forever telling me no one knows the “rules” i know but EVERY American woman knows you don’t wear white to a wedding. End of story. 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

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caligirl0011:  colored flowers over white is fine imo, anyone freaking out over that needs to get a grip. The point is not to look like a bride.

Post # 56
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Busy bee

i think I may be one of the only ones that really could care less if people wore white on my day… 

You have a right to be a little irked if this is what you don’t like and I can maybe understand a little the woman who looked like she was wearing a wedding dress. But for me, everyone is goin to be looking at me walking down the aisle, they’re not goin to be looking at the girl sitting down wearong white.

for me, its inconsequensual in the grand scheme o things and I’m there to get married to the love of my life, enjoy it with friends – for myself, i hope i don’t pay enough attention to let it bother me what people are wearing on my wedding day. 

except if someone showed up naked-then, maybe I would have issue with it:) 

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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peegee:  I agree, but I’ve seen several posts on here with the bees being in agreement to not wear “mostly” white dresses, including the coloured flowers or whatever over white. 

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

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caligirl0011:  yeah I’ve seen it too and it comes off as one of the most bridezilla reactions I can imagine. 

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee

Everyone KNOWS not to wear white to someone else’s wedding!!!!!!! RUDE!!

I am really not a bridezilla about anything, I’ve been cool with anything as long as it’s not costing too much- but being that 99% of guests will be my husband’s family, I warned him that I will FLIP SH!T on any girl who wears white to my wedding! That is the 1 thing I will not bend on, this is MY day and I’m the only one in a white dress, dammit! lol so I hope they got the message loud and clear. I don’t even care about looking classy, most of these people I haven’t even met so the least they can do is show a little respect at MY wedding GRRRRR!

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Ok, now this is TOTALLY melodramatic, but how funny would it be to make one-size-fits-all t-shirts in flourescent pink or lime green or black that says “I’M NOT THE BRIDE” and in smaller letters “but I wore white anyways” and “made” the offenders wear them over their white dresses. It would be SO tacky and pretty rude, but I think I would wet myself laughing if a bride I knew had the balls to do that. Obviously you can’t force someone to wear a t-shirt, but it would get the point across if you asked!

I highly, HIGHLY recommend NOT doing that. Terrible.

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