Post # 1
I’m not engaged (yet!) but I was wondering this last night.
Why did some of you Bees choose a destination wedding? Particularly if you didn’t elope,if you had some guests there. How did you decide? What are some of the reasons that made you pick a destination wedding? Where did you go? Do you regret it?
Post # 2
The crazies in my family don’t have passports.
Post # 3
Mine was technically destination but within the U.S. My family lives east coast, his family lives west. It didn’t seem fair to make one side spend all the money on travel. So we got married 3 hours from our own house in the southwest and while that made everyone coming travel, at least it was pretty even for expenses, plus easier to arrange than doing it at super long distance ourselves. No regrets!
We don’t have passports of our own, so going out of country wasn’t in the question anyway. And it would definitely impact whose wedding I attended if it were in another country.
Post # 4
Both of our families are spread all over the world as are some of our friends. It just made more sense to find somewhere in the middle. Plus we all like to travel so it wasn’t asking anyone to do something they were uncomfortable with.
However we paid for everyone to attend so it was less of a burden on our guests.
Post # 5
We knew right away we wanted to have a destination wedding. We both love to travel, wanted a small wedding, and honestly neither of us could wrap our heads around spending our whole budget on one evening. (Which I am not knocking, by the way, just not for us)
So we did some math, and we realized that, for less than what it would cost us to have a traditional wedding, we could take our families and best friends to Costa Rica for a week. We are putting everyone (15 people including us) up in a private villa, with a chef, for the whole week, and we are still saving money.
I was a little worried about the planning stage, but it has actually been really easy. We found a very affordable wedding planner there who is working with the local vendors for our small beach ceremony, and since we have so few people coming, coordinating the travel has been great. I am so much less stressed than I think I would be if I were planning a big wedding. That may just be me though, travel doesn’t stress me out but people do. 🙂
It made it so much easier to figure out who to invite, too. We invited only immediate family and 1 pair of our friends. This way, we will get to spend all our time with the absolute most important people to us.
We are having an informal reception at a restaurant back home a few months after the wedding for the people who would have been invited had we done the ceremony in town. Two parties for (less than) the price of one! 🙂 works for us.
My only regret is that neither of our grandmothers can attend the wedding, since Costa Rica (and, to be fair, travel in general) would be very hard for them to navigate.
Post # 6
Day is from Scotland and his parents still lived there. His dad was in a nursing home and his mom isn’t in great health. So neither of them could travel to the US. So if we wanted his parents there, which we both did, we had to take the wedding to them! So we got married in Glasgow.
Because it was in Scotland, and not a “typical” destination wedding locale, we had a lot of friends who made a long weekend/mini vacation out of it. If we had done it in the Caribbean, where the vast majority of our friends have been, I doubt we would have had as many people come.
Post # 7
ballgownorbust: Did you look anywhere else besides Costa Rica? If you did, how much less expensive was it than other destinations you were considering? (Hope you don’t mind me asking!)
Post # 8
letterstolove: I don’t mind at all!
We looked at a lot of different locations. The first thing that we decided, based on what we had seen everywhere, was that we wanted to go with a private villa. For the money, it really seemed like the best deal, and our group was the perfect size for the larger ones (8 rooms).
Once we had figured that out, we looked at a ton of different places. We eliminated anyplace where the airfare was more than we thought our family could comfortably afford (we paid for everything except airfare). That brought our choices down considerably, and the four we looked into the closest were Jamaica, Mexico, St. Lucia, and Costa Rica.
Jamaica we loved, and there were a ton of great villas. It was our second choice, the airfare was just a little more than we wanted to spend. Mexico we eliminated because we had both already been there and so we weren’t as excited about it. St. Lucia was way too expensive, but GORGEOUS. Costa Rica was perfect. Airfare was the same as it would be to a lot of US cities and we found a perfect villa.
Tip: I was able to negotiate the price of our villa fairly considerably. It helped that we are going during their slow season.
Post # 9
I’ve lost both of my parents and Fiance has lost his mom. I’m an only child and have literally no living family (my grandfather passed away the day after we got engaged). We decided a long time before we were even engaged, that a big, “normal”, traditional wedding would be sad, plus we didn’t want to deal with the bullshit of having to invite everyone we’ve ever said hello to, so we decided that we were going to go on a once in a lifetime trip and elope to Bora Bora.
About 5 months after we got engaged, Fiance randomly said one night, “hey, what if we took my dad/sisters, stepdad/wife/daughter, and lady that’s like your mom back to Hawaii and got married?” I told him that was a perfect idea, so here we are!
We are getting married in Hawaii this May. It’s our favorite place on earth and means a lot to us. My parents went their on their honeymoon so I feel connected to them there, and it’s where we got engaged. We are renting a huge house for everyone for the week, so it will basically be a big family vacation where we get married on Thursday night. We all fly for free so it’s really not a ridiculous expense. Everyone has been wanting to go to Hawaii and now they have the perfect reason. We’ve been engaged forever it feels like (Aug 2014) so I can’t wait until May!!
Post # 10
Key West was our first vacation together and favorite place. So that was a big factor. We also knew we did not want bridesmaids/groomsmen and a large wedding. So we did the destination thing with 17 close family members.
We had a party once we returned home with the rest of family and friends.
Post # 11
For us, not many of our guests live locally near us, or near each other, or even on the same continent (3 different ones!) Everyone was going to have to travel so we picked a location in New England that had special meaning to us. To make things easier for the guests, we are helping fund acommodations , and are helping everyone with travel.
Post # 12
I am from Singapore and my fiance is from DC and we now live in Socal – because we love the West Coast so much 🙂
We both love the beach and California just in general for having that kind of beach beauty we aren’t able to find in either of our hometownds so we decided to get married at Dana Point in Orange County. Hawaii had been on our list initially because it’s where we got engaged but after considering the logistics of trying to plan a wedding from LA, we decided to move it slightly closer to home but not quite.
Everyone, including our friends from LA will be making the trip out there – be it a 2 hour drive, 6 hour flight, 20 hour flight. Initially we had thought to do it someplace even more accessible so we could host more people but when it comes down to it we only really wanted to invite people who mean something to us so by virtue of that, only the people we care about the most are making the trip to be with us and that’s what counts the most I think.
We’re planning on making a huge week of it, visiting amusement parks and beach days for the week following our wedding, with our friends & family 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t know if our wedding can be considered a “destination wedding,” since it’s within a day of 75% of our guest list.
We had a lot of people from all over the country and the world, and we wanted to have the wedding in a place where MOST people could get to fairly easily. My hometown was out for several reasons, and a real destination wedding (like Hawaii) was out due to older relatives with less mobility.
At the end of it all, there was STILL some unhappiness about our final location. You can’t please everyone. It’s like our venue coordinator said–our first priority as a couple should be what the other wants.
Post # 14
We started planning a bigd wedding in our home town and the more it grew (and expense) I realized that its not what either of us wanted! Plus we both have family that we didn’t want to invite (my side of the family is a really screwed up situation) so we opted to get married in Colorado (his mom and dad ans sister currently live there) and we invited our IMMEDIATE family and that’s it. He hates being in crowds especially people he doesnt really know and I wanted and outside romantic inimate wedding. So we compromised. PLUS we are going from a 22k wedding to just under 5k:)
Now disclaimer we do hate that our grandparents won’t be there, but we talked with them and they know that they will be there in spirit. Desitnation isn’t for everyone, it is harder to plan and you miss out on some things, you have do decide what is important to you and your future hubby!
Post # 15
I’m from one state, financee is from another (like a 20 hour drive), and we live in a third. Friends and extended family are all over the place. i requested mountains, so our home states were out. Where we live is the most expensive place in the country to get married, so we found mountains that were a bit less so. Everyone would have to travel anyway, so we picked something we loved (: