- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
@MrsKevyChevy: I couldn’t be happier that we had a destination wedding. We got married this past December on a private beach in the Riviera Maya, MX. Here are my thoughts as a married lady. =)
It can be cheaper. It really is going to depend on the number of people and what type of ceremony/reception you want. I just started drafting a budget breakdown post for our wedding and the total I got for the ceremony and reception was about $4000. This included a 4 course filet mignon dinner, drinks, venue rentals, cocktail hour and ceremony/reception decor.
Now I did add in some extra things like custom vase/bamboo alter thing (you can see them in my recap posts), a kickass DJ and a independent coordiator. So after all my extras we came up to just under $5500 for 21 people (plus 4 vendors).
OMG Yes the location is one of the things that made our wedding amazing. Mr. M.s grandmother keeps telling people that it was like something out of a fairytale. Our guests are still raving about it being the best wedding they had ever been to. And it made our photos AMAZING!
Guest List / Small vs Large Wedding:
When we first started planning we knew that 90% of our family would not make it which included my BFF/MOH. Inititally I was sad about this but as our wedding day got closer it mattered less and less. In the end what I realized is that there was only a handful of people who were really a must have at the wedding. They were our parents and siblings. Everyone else was just a nice to have which was really hard for me to come to term with since we have such big families.
I worried and worried that with a group of only 21 people that it would be boring, no one would dance at the reception… well you get the idea. But everyone has told us that because it was a small group people were more relaxed and were really able to have a good time at the reception. The dance floor was full all night and the most reserved person in our group turned out to be the life of the party. Some of my favorite memories of our wedding happened at the reception and I know they would not have happened with a larger wedding.
One thing that bugged the crap out of me at first was not being able to do more DIY projects. I could only do those things which I could easily fit in a small suitcase. Things like ceremony programs, menus, favors, Out of Town bags, etc. After having been through it I am so happy that this forced me to NOT go DIY crazy. I did enough to make it personal but not so much that I was pulling my hair out at the end.
And as far a coordinator goes, don’t worry about that. I was able to email back and forth with ours and it was like having someone here locally. We ended up sending a lot of pictures to each other but it worked out very well. All of the details at our ceremony and reception were things I sent pictures of then Yazmin would write back any thoughts and/or cost and we would refine from there anything that didn’t work. I am a super anal control freak planner when it came to our wedding so I was really surpised that it came out perfect.
One thing you didn’t mention was the option of having an at-home reception afterwards. Then all of your family and friends who couldn’t come to the wedding can still celebrate with you. You could do something as simple as a backyard bbq, a semi-formal party or a full on reception. We choose to do a semi-formal, dance till you drop party this June.
Sorry to write a whole book but I hope this helps!