(Closed) Why Did You Choose a Diamond?

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I wanted a diamond because they are classic, very sparkly, and more durable than gemstones. I love gemstones but I am clumsy (and left handed) so my e-ring has definitely been whacked around a bit! When Fiance realized how much a diamond would cost, we started considering moissanite that we would maybe replace later, but then my parents offered my mom’s original e-ring diamond, so we just used that. 

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

I always knew I wanted a diamond.  I never thought of getting anything else when the time came for me to be engaged and my husband felt the same way.  I do have a moissanite ring also and while it is beautiful, it just doesn’t give me the same feeling as when I wear my diamond.  My engagement ring and wedding band are the only things I ever wear on my hand so I feel lucky to have diamonds.  🙂

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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FutureDrAtkins :  Well they are unique in the sense that theyre all different, but not in the sense that theyre also ubiquitous.

Post # 34
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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MrsBuesleBee :  That’s true, I didn’t think of it that way! 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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MissMul :  I initially wanted a peach champagne sapphire or a light champagne diamond. Fiance was dead set on me having a diamond and when I went and looked at oval diamonds and all the sparkle, I just couldn’t resist lol. 

So that’s basically how I ended up with a diamond. Although there are many beautiful other stones out there, there’s just nothing that really compares (sparkle wise) to a diamond. It is just exceptionally beautiful. 

But I will be having a sapphire in my RHR so I guess it’s kind of a compromise really 🙂 

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I actually originally did not want a diamond. I originally wanted no ring at all, and that is what I had. Then after I married, I chose to get a blue sapphire ring as in my own family, blue sapphires have been the traditional engagement and wedding rings for a long time. Then after I had some issues with that ring, I went with a moissanite ring and wore that for several years. It was beautiful, my only complaint was I sometimes found the stone too big for me.  

However, for many years I wanted an antique flowery-halo/cluster ring though (whether it was a sapphire, ruby, diamond, etc), and it was important to me that it was truly an antique ring with antique stones, not a reproduction. I kept an eye out for years on several antique/vintage resellers and finally found my dream ring which as a centre…had an antique cushion diamond. So now I wear my antique diamond ring on my left finger, and I also added a diamond ring from the art deco period as a right hand ring. I also do still have a couple moissanites I wear as RHRs and alternates when I don’t want to wear my diamonds and as travel rings.

My problem is I love many sparkly things and if I had unlimited funds I would probably have a few more rings to alternate with. I think coloured gemstones are beautiful, and would love a big emerald or ruby (but the colour and size I would love would be astronomically pricey), or a glowy Paraiba tourmaline (ditto…even a small one would be hugely expensive due to their rarity). I was never someone set on diamonds, to be quite honest, it just sort of worked out that way. I also don’t buy into the marketing that diamonds are forever, and have seen many diamonds chipped, cracked, broken over the wears of time and an unfortunate knock (if they really were that infallible, you would not even be able to facet the damn things!). I treat my diamonds with care, like I would for any other stone.

However, I do really like my diamond rings, and while I also love alternatives like moissanites and think they have only become more beautiful over the last years with more competition and development, my diamonds do have something “special” to them that has me favour them over my moissanites if I had to choose. Just a depth, shimmer, character, life to them that my moissanites don’t (for me, of course, not speaking for everyone). My diamonds in particular I feel have a charm and a long mysterious history to them, both being antique stones, that a new stone – be it a diamond or moissanite – can’t recreate. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I have a diamond, and i love it!! I feel they are timeless and classic, and yes, my fiancé and I were most definitely on the same page. In fact, we didn’t even consider anything else … I know I may get a lot of flack for saying this, but when a diamond ring is on your left hand, there is literally no question about whether or not you are engaged. Other rings are pretty- yes, but just personally I don’t find that all of them say “taken” quite the same way 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee

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MissMul :  Because I wanted a heart shape and that narrowed the options down, hated the shape of hearts in moissanite and I hadn’t known about morganite. I’m also not much of a coloured stone fan, other than morganite. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Honestly, SO is why. I’m all for moissanite or a beautiful colored stone, but he was dead set on a diamond. And, like others said, I feel like I have more of an excuse to buy myself sapphire etc. rings as RHR throughout my life vs. a classic diamond solitaire.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We figured it was kind of like the “evening dress” debate – you might as well get a wedding dress because you can wear an evening dress anytime. Might as well get a diamond because you can get a gemstone ring any time for any other reason.

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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MissMul : My engagement ring from my first marriage was a pale blue oval sapphire in a diamond halo, if I didn’t now have an heirloom diamond and sapphire, three-stone, rhr ring, I would have been very happy to have a cushion cut or round rich blue sapphire e-ring in a diamond halo (I’ve never forgotten a scrumptious Tiffany Legacy with the most extraordinary royal blue sapphire that you could get lost in).

I’m in the UK and before the Bee, the only colourless diamond alternative I was aware of was CZ, which I wouldn’t want as an e-ring because of the poor durability. While I’d happily buy a moissanite as a right hand ring, and be loud and proud about it, I’d prefer diamond for my engagement ring because of durability and possibly performance (I don’t think I’ve seen moissanite in real life so that might be invalid). I’d rather have a good moissanite than a poor quality diamond though, as I’ve seen stunning photos of them on here (RayKay and one of the SparkleBees) and a dull diamond hurts my heart.

My current diamond engagement ring was a surprise, I don’t think my husband would have considered anything but diamond and platinum unless I’d said I wanted something different.. He doesn’t know about alternatives and I think because his background was poor, he’s reacted by being more invested in quality brands, and having “good things” than I am, – who never had to wear hand-me-downs and be aware that others felt sorry for my family. 

 

Post # 42
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We chose a diamond because I prefer a colorless stone, I think they are beautiful and they are known to stand the test of time when it comes to durability.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee

I think many people want a stone that is very hard. 

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I love coloured gemstones. My Fiance gave me a sapphire RHR nearly 10 years ago that I wear everyday, so didn’t want another sapphire. I actually wanted an emerald, but they are too soft for everyday wear. I was seriously looking to have alexandrite, but I’ve never seen one in real life and I didn’t want the hassle of ordering a custom ring online and then not like it. In the end we went for diamond as it was the ‘easy’ option I guess. I love my diamond but emerald is still my first choice! 🙂

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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MissMul :  I would have been happy with a blue sapphire ring but my DH said he wasn’t proposing with anything other than a diamond ring lol 🙂 

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