- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I toyed with the idea of an emerald but decided against it because I might change my mind later. Then the year before we were engaged, my Fiance went back to school and we didn’t have a tonne of money. I suggested a white sapphire instead of a diamond to keep costs down but keep a similar look. He surprised me with a diamond anyway and said it was “a special one time thing… and it’s your birthstone!” So sweet.
My Fiance was the one that decided to get me a diamond. I was open to moissanite and Amora Gem just from the posts on this site. I knew I wanted a clear stone as I have a couple of colored gemstone rings that I rarely wear.
I ordered a classic moissanite pendant (before we even talked about getting engaged) and have been rather disappointed in its performance. It does not have the disco ball effect that so many people talk about. Quite frankly, it’s rather dull and it kind of poo-poohed my feelings on moissanite.
I then ordered a loose 1 carat Forever One. It was much prettier than the classic and it was pretty close to diamond like when I compared it to my sister’s real diamond ring. But my Fiance saw it and thought it was rather flat looking.
We were on the waiting list for the Amora Gem because I didn’t want a super large one. Then I read posts on the Soaring Hearts version and it seemed like a lot of people couldn’t agree on which type was better. In the meantime, which I didn’t know, my Fiance went and looked at several diamonds in person. At one point, he even brought the F1 to the store with him. He thought the diamonds all out performed the moissanite so that’s what he wound up choosing.
He also told me that for my ring he wanted to go with a diamond for him as well. He said he could get me a moissy ring at any time, for THIS ring, which is just as important to him, he wanted to go with the diamond.
I love diamonds and always wanted one. I think they’re beautiful (well, well-cut ones anyway-not into the “raw diamond” fad now). But I also love big diamonds so I almost got a 2 1/2 carat moissanite for my engagement ring but ended up selling it because I just couldn’t get over the fact that it wasn’t a diamond – although it was gorgeous.
I would say I’m a gemstone whore. I love them all! I love watching qvc and jtv not just for the ridiculous sales pitches but because I love all things sparkly.
With my first marriage I wanted (thus received) a very well cut cz; it was, maybe, $10. It was beautiful and just what I wanted. And you couldnt beat the price. That relationship ended in divorce and I threw that ring in his jerk face the night he left me.
With my current marriage I didn’t have much of a choice and received a diamond. I have a very hard time wrapping my head around how much money is on my finger. I couldn’t bare to spend even more on my wedding band so I went with a moissanite eternity! I love it as much as the diamond. They are both beautiful.
My favorite gemstone is natural emerald but everybody including an emerald dealer told me it wasn’t durable enough for an every day ring. I wanted to wear my engagement ring every day and as the scars on my hands prove, I can be rather rough with my hands.
My second choice was diamond because I admired my mom’s ring. I didn’t want a new mined diamond for environmental reasons. My partner didn’t want me to get a new mined diamonds either (humanitarian reasons) but he was superstitious about second hand diamonds. What if the previous owners got divorced?
We ended up getting a lab diamond. People may not understand why we paid so much for something that didn’t take that much effort to produce but diamonds are the second prettiest thing to me besides emerald. The moissanites that I saw were a poor substitute. I wonder how the H&A moissanites compare but it’s too late now.
De Beers ran a successful marketing campaign in 1938 which suggested that nothing but a diamond belonged on an engagement ring. That’s not a thought that I adhere to, although I do have a diamond engagement ring. I love blue sapphire and I talked about a sapphire solitaire set in yellow gold, but the fiancé was having none of it. For him diamond was the only way to go. So I guess he did succumb to the De Beers mentality. It did however matter to me that my ring was ethical, so it needed to come from a fair, established mine or be second hand/antique. It’s new, but ethical. I love it so much. I wouldn’t change anything about it.
Because diamond is forever for me anyway. I wanted a diamond engagement ring and he wanted to give me a diamond engagement ring that will last and can be handed down to another generation.
UK bee here and I wasn’t aware of so many diamond alternatives until I came on the bee.
I love amethyst but its a softer stone which put me off. DH was always of the opinion that my engagement ring should be a diamond. I picked a similar style setting to my mum’s so I was probably influenced by her. Its also the birthstone of both myself and DH which works out nicely.
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