(Closed) Why did you decide to elope?

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 16
1149 posts
Bumble bee

We have decided to elope for a few reasons:

1) we cannot justify spending $20k+ on one day,

2) our families live on opposite sides of the country, so either a majority of his family or mine wouldn’t make it,

3) awkward family situations (my mom and dad divorced because my mom had affairs, and shes still with the guy she had an affair with), plus his family is full of drama,

4) I’ve always thought a lot of wedding traditions were cheesy (well most of them), such as garter toss, dances, toasts, bouquet toss, etc.,

5) Fiance and I are both simple, quiet people, and the idea of hosting a huge party doesn’t appeal to either of us.

6) personally I think a wedding should be intimate and for the two getting married, and it shouldn’t include my fiancés work friends sister or whatever. Lol. It just seems too private and special to share with 200 people.

We are planning to elope at the courthouse and then honeymoon in the Caribbean (when or where is undecided at the moment). I’m very happy with our choice and know we won’t regret it at all. 

Post # 17
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

We’re eloping because my family is crazy and both families are fairly large. We just don’t want to spend that much money on one day that my family will probably screw up. Plus the wedding isn’t important to us anyhow, being married is. I’ve never wanted a fairy tale wedding so it’s not a big deal for me. We can elope and take a mini vacay all for about $1000 and a bunch of airlines miles. Just us. He loved the idea of being able to get married, go on vacation, and not spend the day with our families so it really worked out!

Post # 18
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Villa in Florence, Italy

We are eloping becuase we want a very private and intimate moment. We also want a fairy tale location(Italy) and it seems unreasonable to ask everyone to travel that far.

We are however having a reception back home a few months after the wedding. 

Post # 19
1786 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We wanted to elope because our wedding day was about us and no one else. We didn’t want family drama (which there seemed to be endless amounts of) we just wanted a stress free, fun, intimate, adventure. We eloped halfway through a honeymoon cruise in Alaska. We flew out by helicopter on a port day and got married on top of a glacier (which was ian incredible adventure on it’s own!) We did have a small family dinner cruise style celebration when we got home right on the lake DH proposed to me on while ice fishing two years ago so that was fun. We renewed our vows in front of family so they could feel like they were part of it which was special for everyone. We loved our wedding though, it was so much fun for both of us, we wouldn’t change a thing!

Here’s a link to some of my wedding photos if you’re interested!


Post # 20
34 posts
  • Wedding: July 2015

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mrstob614:  To be honest, I just wasn’t comforatble with the idea of saying all those personal vows in front of everyone. I just wanted it to be the two of us. That is all that mattered to me.

However, I have been dreaming of my wedding since I was a little girl. So I didn’t want to miss out on those experieces. The dress, first dance, etc. So I eloped on July 1st. Reception November 21st.

Look at “Reception Only” Invites online. They have some cute ideas. I don’t regret my choice to a private ceremony at all. Just be prepared to people to say stupid comments. I really had to learn to get tough skin about it all. 


Post # 21
272 posts
Helper bee

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GFerg:  My Future Brother-In-Law got married there! It’s a beautiful chapel and free to rent!

Post # 22
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

We chose to elope because the big shin dig was literally breaking us apart. We had health concerns with both my dad and I that started to drain the wedding budget. So we contacted all the guests to explain that we were eloping and then we had a planned elopement with our parents on the beach. For us it was a perfect solution and I still wore my formal dress and everything. 

Post # 23
9 posts

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KitSnicket:  I think you just described my engagement, down the crazy in-laws and two week European trip! I hope you post more on elopment/weddingmoon.

Post # 24
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2016

For me – My Dad is deceased and he was a big part of the big white dress wedding to me.  Furthermore, my mother and her family are at best annoying.  I can’t stand any of them. The cost of security to keep the violent ones away is more than our planned elopement. My mother is having regular tantrums at not being included with wedding planning, or how she doesn’t know the date.

For Dear Fiance – He just is fine with what I want. A small, court house wedding is however preferred than standing in front of a herd of people to him. His parents are just happy we’re finally getting married.

So invited guests are our mutual friends who are a couple to serve as witnesses.  Done. They were planning to be in the area anyway. 

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