- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Four years ago, my parents went through a pretty messy split after being together for over 30 years. They haven’t spoken since the day my dad walked out. My dad now has a new live-in girlfriend (who I’m e never met and have no desire to meet) while mom is still hoping dad will soon ‘come to his senses’ and come back to her. I haven’t told my mom that there is a serious girlfriend in the picture.
Anyway, all that to say that I can totally see my wedding being a complete disaster because of family dynamics. I know my parents both love me and would never intentionally do anything to ruin the day, but it’s just going to be hanging over my head.
I’m seriously considering just eloping and avoiding the whole thing. We only got engaged last weekend while we were on vacation and when I called my mom yesterday just to check in on things back home, she jokingly asked whether we were married yet. I asked what she would think if we actually did just elope and she said that as my mother she would really miss seeing me get married, but if she were in my shoes, she would be seriously considering it too.
I dunno…I’m afraid I’ll regret not having the wedding of my dreams just to avoid family issues that will still be there whether we decide to elope or not.