- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
After visting countless venues, poring over magazines and speaking with wedding planners, my fiance and I decided to eloping fit us because:
1) Fiance’s father is very old and we want him to have some nice pictures. He can’t travel because of a medical condition and he said he wants a daughter in law already. 🙂
2) Out of the original guest list (that my highly controlling mother had a huge say in ) 60 out of the 75 were all her family. I get along with NONE of them for the most part and they say terrible things about him, making racist remarks and mean spirited jokes about his job. I believe that a wedding should be an event where the only people there are those who are sincerely happy for you and have seen you through it all. Not just to show up for food and drink. You want that? Go to a club.
3.) Our insistence on no children. My closest friend understood why her 4 year old wasn’t invited, but when my extended family found out they exploded like a bomb, the drama didn’t end for over a week.
4.) Anxiety over being the center of attention. I can barely handle my 2 coworkers looking at me , imagine being looked at by all those people o.o I start to turn bright red and get migraines. The thought just makes me nauseated.
5.) Finances, which everyone seemed to have a problem understanding. They wanted a big wedding and I did too originally, but we just can’t because the car died after 250,000 miles and we HAD to get a new one, along with paying for school and loan payments. :/ We are able to afford this elopement because everything is already paid for, we can drive to the location and it’s only $500 for the whole deal. Beautiful location, a special place dear to us, quiet and peaceful and we are very much looking forward to it.
6.) Both of us agreed from the beginning we just want to be married and take this new step forward with our lives than go through all the hassle which just isn’t us. It might be great and wonderful for some other people, hell…I’ve seen some crazy beautiful weddings on the Bee and loved looking at them, but it’s not for us. Every wedding is beautiful, no matter where it is or who you’re with. 😀