(Closed) Why did you have a long engagement?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We postponed a year because Darling Husband got laid off from his job. He was unemployed for 10 months! It was such an awful time.

Our engagement ended up being about two years.

Post # 4
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

By the time were married next October we will have had a 16 month engagement. I’ve had a ton of people comment on how long it is. 

Our main reasoning behind waiting is simple. MONEY. Weddings. Ain’t. Cheap.

My parents have generously offered to pay for half of our wedding but that still left the other half as well as our honeymoon expenses to come up with ourselves. We didn’t want our day to day lives to suffer just because we had to pay for a wedding so waiting more than a year and saving as we go just made sense for us. 

Another reason is I just simply love being engaged. I was one of those little girls who planned her wedding since Barbies. I’ve dreamed of being engaged and being able to dream up my perfect day for so long that now that its really here and happening, I want to savor it. 

A few of my friends have gotten engaged and married within a matter of a few months and while that worked for them, it wouldnt have worked for me. I like to move at my own pace and since I am planning on doing alot of DIY’ing, I wanted plenty of time to get these projects accomplished without being stressed over deadlines. 

In retrospect, I guess 16 months isn’t really that long of an engagement but its long enough for people to question it. 

Post # 5
2867 posts
Sugar bee


We’re both in college.  Fiance and I both ended up needing extra time, so in order to be RESPONSIBLE we decided to postpone our wedding 17 months, mostly due to health insurance costs.  We can’t afford to pay out of pocket, and I want to make sure we have health insurance before we get married in case I get pregnant (since we’re practicing catholics, artificial birth control is out of the question).  So for the sake of our future finances and children’s health, we decided it would be best to postpone.  When he proposed, we didn’t foresee that we would be in school another year.

Post # 6
3752 posts
Honey bee

Let’s see…engaged Feb 8, 2008…the earliest we’ll get married is Feb. 18, 2012…so over 4 years…the main reason is because only like 5/6 people knew we were actually engaged until about July 2008 when I moved in with Mr.TKE. Another reason is Mr.TKE was finishing up grad school. $$ was obviously a huge issue…being only single income makes for a harder time also…we are also the most indeceisive people ever! We haven’t even set a date yet! And I don’t mind a long engagement…We only knew eachother about a year when I asked Mr.TKE to marry me, so we were still getting to know each other. Personally I’d go to the courthouse tomorrow just to call it offical…Mr.TKE won’t have it tho, we had that discussion last night :/

Post # 7
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We will have been engaged for 18 months. People are always asking, “Are you and Fiance still together?” I guess they think that because we haven’t gotten married yet we aren’t going to…

Our original date was November 11, 2011. We both wanted to be completely done with school before we got married. But, we realized that we didn’t want to wait and that neither one of us would be done with ALL of our schooling (PhD’s) by November of 2011 anyways, so why not move it up…

Post # 9
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Fiance knew when he proposed to me that I wanted a 2 year engagement. I love being engaged and I’m totally milking it Wink

The way I see it, we’re only engaged once (hopefully) in your life, so Im gonna live it up

Post # 10
2867 posts
Sugar bee

@HoneyBear:  I’m enjoying it as well.  Less stress, more time to plan, more time to save money, and I think it’s a great period of time of transitioning.

Post # 11
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We wanted to get married in the summer and this summer wouldn’t have given us enough time to plan. Bonus: we get to save more money!

Post # 12
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We’re gonna be engaged for 2 years. Maybe longer. We postponed once already because I cant find a job. Id hate to do it again. Our original date was October 29th 2011, and I decided that if I can’t find a job by October 29th of this year, that we’d postpone.

Post # 13
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Because we still live on opposite coasts, and we’d like to live together before getting married (still trying to work out the job thing right now).  We expect to have a two year engagement.

Post # 14
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

School. He made a promise to my parents when he asked for my hand that we would finish school before the wedding. Just 6 months left until graduation and 8 months until the wedding!!!!

Post # 15
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Partly to get the date we wanted and partly to save up for it. I find it’s just more relaxing to have a long engagement. I’m not nearly as anxious or stressed.

Post # 16
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

By the time we get married next September, we will have been engaged around 25 months. When we first got engaged, I asked for a 2 year engagement to give us time to save some money. Since we’ve been engaged, we bought a house, so a huge chunk of money went into that. There are definately days we talk and agree that we wish we were getting married sooner, but I think it’s working out for us because I love the amount of time I’ve had to plan things..

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