(Closed) Why did you have a sweetheart table? Why didn't you?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did/will you have a sweetheart table
    Yes and loved it : (28 votes)
    61 %
    Yes and hated it : (0 votes)
    No I didn't and wish we had : (0 votes)
    No and Im glad we didn't! : (18 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Ultimately, we chose to have a sweetheart table because:

    • We didn’t want any friends or family members to feel left out or hurt because we didn’t sit next to/near them
    • We couldn’t fit our entire wedding party and their significant others at one table with our particular floor plan and table sizes
    • We wanted our wedding party to be able to socialize with their own friends and familiy members, as our wedding was a bit of a reunion and everyone had lots of catching up to do
    • We wanted to have a few quiet moments with each other to just take things in and have a conversation without everyone swarming us

    I think everyone has the best intentions when determining where the bride and groom will sit at dinner, but the reality is that dinner is pretty short-lived for most brides and grooms and really, you shouldn’t sweat it. I hardly had a chance to wolf down four bites before rushing off for more photos or getting ready for some wedding activity in the schedule of events, lol.

    And oddly enough, I can’t seem to find any photos of our sweetheart table! This is the only one I could pull up on this computer.

    If we hadn’t done a sweetheart table then we would have sat at a table with our wedding party and their SOs, but it worked out perfectly the way we did it, so no regrets! =]

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    We aren’t doing one which I think most people do have a sweetheart table. I just really want to enjoy dinner with our bridal party and socialize with them. I have the rest of my life to eat dinner alone with my new husband. I want to CELEBRATE with my friends during the whole evening!

    Post # 5
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    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Oh, and our bridal parties SO’s will be seated with us as well so no awkwardness for their dates.

    Post # 6
    Member
    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We are — our venue has little 4-person booths, so it made sense for us!

    Post # 7
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    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’ll be doing one. We don’t have a bridal party and to jam all of our family members at one table will be odd. Plus, we are sure our family members would like to sit with their friends and peers and not the parental units! We also wanted a space for just us to so we can touch bases and chat with each other and not have to socialize literally every moment that day.

    The last few weddings we’ve attended had sweetheart tables as well, even though they had bridal parties. Everyone seemed happy.

    Post # 8
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    3462 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    – We wanted to let the bridal party sit with their spouses/dates (and there was no space for all of them at a table so we would have had to pick & choose)

    -We figured we’d be up/down from the table

    -We wanted a few moments to ourselves. So glad we did it for this reason!

    -[ETA] I hated sitting at a long head table on display for my sisters wedding and didn’t want to do that to my bridal party.

    Also, everyone really complimented it and thought it was a great idea, though I’ve seen it quite a bit!

    Post # 9
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    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We didnt want a big strait table with our bridal party ackwardly facing out plus I think table skirting is tacky. Our sweetheart table was a round table at the front and our bridal party had different coloured chargers at the spots. The best man has a girlfriend (whom we dont care for) and 3 kids so we cant fit everyone at the head table and she cant handle all three alone.

    Post # 10
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    1389 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

    We had a sweetheart table because we:

    Wanted some time to soak in being married alone as a couple.

    Wanted our bridal party to be able to sit with their dates.

    Didn’t want to leave anyone out (i.e. family).

    It worked out well for us!

    Our table is in front of the french doors, opposite the stairs in this picture.

    Post # 11
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    310 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Originally, I didn’t want one.  I really wanted to sit family style with our immediate family.  Ends up our venue/caterer made the decision for us.  No choice I guess.  I actually felt so far away from our guests and personally didn’t like it.  I wanted to be with family.

    Post # 12
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    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    @vivshanks:  that is what I was afraid of so we decided to sit with our bridal party and their dates. Our venue has a couple different options but we are leaning towards this one:

    Post # 13
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    4888 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had one and it was one of my favorite details of the day.  It was so nice to have that hour with my new husband to chat and just be together with minimal distractions.  It was awesome.

    Bad pic but you get the gist

    Post # 14
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    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    When my Matron of Honor got married, her husband said he regretted the decision to have a sweetheart table because when Abby, his wife, got up to use the restroom or to mingle (she talks a lot). He was left alone and was like “ooookay I’m here alone and staring at my food while everyone else is staring at me…staring at my food”.

    We went with a head table and yes we even separated dates but everyone was really close and we had a blast celebrating the wedding and no one was left alone.

    Post # 15
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We both wanted a sweetheart table because it gave us some alone time to talk and do our inside jokes that no one would ever get. 🙂 

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    11177 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We did the typical bridal party table and had a blast. Our silly groomsmen didn’t understand the concept of chargers and thought they were just really (really, really) big plates. LOL!

    While I understand the idea of a sweetheart table I really wanted to celebrate with my dear friends, that is why I chose them to be part of my bridal party after all. 🙂

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