(Closed) Why did you have a sweetheart table? Why didn't you?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did/will you have a sweetheart table

    Yes and loved it

    Yes and hated it

    No I didn't and wish we had

    No and Im glad we didn't!

  • Post # 18
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’re going to do a sweethearts table.  I didn’t want the entire bridal party lined up against a wall.  To me, it just seemed kind of heavy.  I liked the simplicity of the sweetheart table.  I figured it would also be cheaper to decorate too versus a huge bridal party table.  🙂

    I voted yes, and that we loved it.  o_o We haven’t expirienced it yet but alas.  hahahaha

    Post # 20
    7898 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I don’t like to be separated from my guests like that. To me, the reception is not time to be alone with my new husband. If we wanted to be alone, then we shouldn’t be having a reception. We sat in the middle of three kings tables end to end. No one was sat in the palces right across from us. We just had more flowers in that space, so we were still visible and accessible. But all around us were our 26 friends and family members our age. Older family members and family friends took up the 5 single kinds tables around the rest of the room. For us, it was perfect. We were able to sit with our wedding party and they were able to sit with their SOs, and our other friends were close by. There was tons of conversation.

    So we were at the longer table in the background.

    Post # 21
    15471 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Other: We had a sweet heart table, but it didnt matter either way, we didnt’ really spend any time at it anyways.  We had a quick meal and spent 15-20 minutes tops at the table, then spent the rest of the time walking around and dancing.

    Post # 22
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

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    @pinkshoes:  We had a sweet heart table, but it didnt matter either way, we didnt’ really spend any time at it anyways. We had a quick meal and spent 15-20 minutes tops at the table, then spent the rest of the time walking around and dancing.

    Exactly! Same thing for us.

    Post # 23
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had round tables, and had a larger round table for us, the bridal party, and their spouses.  It worked great.  In the past, all the weddings I’d been to had the long narrow head table.  Which is all well and good.  But then I went to a wedding that had a round table with the bride and groom with their party/dates (I was the best man’s date).  I noticed a couple things– the bride and groom seemed to be having all kinds of fun talking to everyone, and they actually ate.  So at that point I decided that’s how we’d do it.  We also did a family style dinner to encourage conversation (and allow people to try a little of everything they like, and not have to have anything on their plates that they don’t like).  I don’t have the individual photos back yet, but just this morning we got slideshow from the photographer that shows our tables and has some dinner photos.  http://www.amysalerno.com/slideshow/maine-barn-wedding-2012/

    Post # 24
    480 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We had a head table and no one had any issues with it! We knew the table would be moved as soon as dinner was over so we weren’t worried about bridal party guests’ sitting by themselves all night. As soon as dinner was over everyone mingled anyway. Also, I liked how our venue made the table U shaped instead of one straight line. We were actually able to see everyone! In the picture, our chairs are missing because they were used during the ceremony but you can see how we had two people on either side of us plus two and three on the ends.

    Post # 25
    3240 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We had a head table. Hubby didn’t want a sweetheart table because he wanted to spend time with the guests who traveled to be at our wedding. He told me we have the whole rest of our lives to eat together and I agree. It was fun getting to talk with friends as well as hubby.

    Post # 26
    1618 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We spent about 5 minutes at our sweetheart table, so it really didn’t matter either way.  I guess I’m glad we had it because we didn’t have to eparate our wedding party from their dates to sit at a table that had no bride or groom!  It was fine, but a head table probably would have also been fine.

    Post # 27
    3457 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    To those saying they can’t spend time with guests if they have a sweetheart table – I say it makes for easier mingling/circulating on the tables.

    Post # 28
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Like other brides have said, the sweetheart table gave us a break and we talked the most during that brief time that day. It was nice to simply enjoy our time together and not offend anyone by sitting with certian people and our party was too big to let them sit with their SO’s at a head table.

    Post # 29
    4192 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    No, and it really didn’t matter. Fiance wanted to sit with the bridal party (and their SOs), so even though we had the fullest table at the wedding, it still worked. Honestly, we barely sat down, so I don’t feel having a sweetheart table would have made any difference.

    Post # 30
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We have one long table with us in the middle, bridal party extending to either side and parents across from us. It’s only about 40 people so nobody is too far away.

    Post # 31
    3414 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    I personally think they are very old fashioned.  Everytime I hear the name “sweet heart table” I cringe.  Maybe it was ruined for me when my best friends brother married a witch.  They had one and I never did like her, then she cheated  on him.  Ever since then I’ve been turned off.

    Again that’s just my prejudgice.  They may be really cute if I saw one again.

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