Post # 1
SO and I were discussing rings yesterday and I informed him that I really love gemstones for these reasons…
1) It is unique and will stand out from a lot of rings & 2) the cost is better, and the idea of spending that much on a diamond makes me uncomfortable when we could put that money towards a house.
I know this tends to be a topic of debate, but that is in no way what I am after. I am just curious why many of you wanted gemstones? Was it it a money reason? A personal preferance? Or more to do with the controversy over how diamonds are excavated (which I haven’t looked into much, but still kind of scares me)?
Let me know! I’d love to hear your opinions, and share photos of your ring!
Post # 3
I chose to have a sapphire center stone for the same reasons as you. I like having something a little different and I liked the fact that a sapphire e-ring would cost less. I’m a very frugal person so I specifically told Fiance not to spend too much on the ring.
Post # 4
My Fiance always tells me that I am like no other girl that he has every met before so it made perfect sense to him that I didn’t want a diamond engagement ring. I wanted a Tanzanite more than anything in the entire world! 🙂 When I was 17 my Mom bought me the most beautiful Tanzanite ring and I bought myself a Tanzanite necklace to match. I think they are more beautiful than any diamond I had ever looked at (no offense to anyone who likes diamonds, they just aren’t for me). Tanzanites unfortunately aren’t any cheaper than diamonds, in some cases they can actually be much more expensive. But I love my ring and the fact that my Fiance picked it out all by himself 🙂
Post # 5
Here is the epic, long winded story of how I ended up with a gemstone engagement ring. Sorry, it got waaaaay long. I actually didn’t want a ring at all – I never wear any jewelry besides my watch, and stop at the gym after work almost every day… it’d be a pain to have to worry about it on weight-lifting days. Anyway, he talked me into a ring in the first place.
I think diamond engagement rings are GORGEOUS (and durable for a klutz like me!), but the story behind them becoming traditional (basically, big targeted marketing scheme) really leaves a sour taste in my mouth. I also love being non-traditional about stuff like this. My fiance HATE HATE HATES the diamond engagement ring tradition. Way more than I do. He was happy to use an heirloom ring because he adores his family and mine and liked the link to our grandparents, but there was no way he was plunking down money on a diamond. Not because he’s cheap… I think his mindset was more along the lines of having to give hundreds of dollars to a political candidate you hate.
We actually were going to use an heirloom diamond ring from my grandmother, but it was locked in the safe at my parents house and we wouldn’t be able to get to it until a week or so after we planned to tell his family we were engaged. Not to mention sizing and apprisal, during the busiest time of year (we were only planning to be home visiting family for two weeks around Christmas).
So we decided to get some sort of token ring just to have something to show people. But we ended up falling in love with an emerald ring that was very affordable for an actual ring, but definitely more than we were planning on spending on costume jewelry. We ended up deciding that it was more “us” and just what we wanted after all.
Post # 6
I have a sapphire and diamond engagement ring. I knew all along that I wanted sapphires in my engagement ring since both my husband and I have September birthdays and I thought that would be a good way of making the ring more symbolic of us as a couple. I also have a thing about deep royal blue (in my mind, I visualize it as being the color of love, so naturally I wanted it in my engagement ring). I had planned to have a center diamond with two sapphires but I found myself drawn to the sapphire center stones more than diamonds. I fell in love with my ring and the gorgeous blue stone in it and we knew that it was right for us. It also made us feel better about the conflict aspect of diamonds. And though my ring was about the same price as the diamond rings we looked at, if we had picked a diamond the same size as my sapphire (which is about 2.5 carats), it would have been MUCH more expensive.
I absolutely love my ring and think it’s beautiful, but just a warning that you may not get a lot of support from others on the choice of your ring. I don’t expect validation for my choice from others, but it makes me angry that people don’t approve of it for the sole reason that it’s not a diamond.
Post # 7
It’s funny. When I was younger, people kept asking me if I would get an emerald engagement ring because I loved green and emeralds so much. I found it a little annoying, actually, because I did want a diamond to define it as a wedding ring and not any old ring.
So a decade and more later when I actually got engaged, I initially was looking at diamonds. (I did my own ring-shopping.) But I looked and didn’t find anything that sang to me. I found nice rings, sure. But when I spotted a particular setting with sapphires in it, it sang. It does actually have a diamond for a centerstone that we took from my grandmother’s ring, but it’s really the sapphires that stand out and what garner all the comments. I know it’s the sapphires that “make” my ring. And if I’m honest with myself, I love color and it only makes sense (and my friends were speaking from their knowledge of me) that I would prefer a gemstone. Sapphires work well for me because blue goes with so much of my wardrobe and is one of my favorite colors (along with green and purple, but the blue coordinates best).
And yes, it kept costs down (as did using an heirloom diamond). So I’d say it’s a combination of many things.
Post # 8
My reasons are basically the same as yours; however, mine probably cost about the same as all diamonds would. Mine is an orange sapphire surrounded by tiny diamonds. My Fiance and I actually went ring shopping together, and the ring we ended up getting is the best one for us. When I first saw it it practically jumped out of the display and placed itself on my ring finger. It just kept saying “Pick me!!! Pick me!!!”. We tried other rings that were just diamonds, but they didn’t even register with us.
Post # 9
@namarie: Thank you for your response. That ring is beautiful! I understand that a lot of people won’t approve, but I really don’t care. In my mind, I am the one wearing it so my SO and I should be the only ones who need to improve it.
My biggest concern is the money. Even though SO told me a budget that would buy a really nice diamond, I can’t help but love the yellow sapphires at 1/2 the price of a diamond for double the carat.
This is the one I am in love with 🙂
Post # 10
I love the idea of getting a yellow sapphire, and then replacing it with a yellow diamond later in life, maybe on a big anniversary like 25 years. I think it is just so beautiful! It still looks very traditional to me, but with it’s own originality.
Post # 11
Let’s not forget that diamonds are gemstones. They’re not in their own special category. 😛
I didn’t ask for my emerald for particularly noble reasons. It cost just as much, if not more than, a comparable diamond. Non-diamonds are still mined to the detriment of the environment, and it’s quite possible the sapphire/ruby/emerald/etc. miners live less than wonderful lives. But I’ve always wanted an emerald, so that’s what I got! It’s simply gorgeous and suits me to a T. I don’t like jewelry that doesn’t have any color, and a diamond/white gold e-ring would have looked blah and run of the mill to me.
Post # 12
I just love the look of them! I like diamonds too, which is why they are all around my sapphire and on the band, but its just something about the color that gets me every time. I have gotten a couple of ‘ohh, is that what you wanted…?!’ comments, but most people LOVE my ring. I’ve been engaged for 8 months and still get caught staring at my ring!
ps: @pumpkinptch: that yellow sapphre ring is GORGEOUS!
Post # 13
Because I knew we couldn’t afford a one-carat diamond and I have always loved sapphires. Now, my ring is very modest compared the blue sapphires in this thread (gorgeous rings ladies 🙂 but it has a lot of meaning because of the symbolism of love, friendship and loyalty of the Claddagh. It’s not a great photo (good luck locating it with all the sea glass lol) but I love this ring so much and I doubt I’ll see it on anyone else.
P.S. It’s a lot prettier and sparklier in real life 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception
Because they’re GORGEOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 15
@octopus: GORGEOUS!! If I didn’t go for a yellow sapphire, I would definitely want a beautiful blue like that! Is it an aquamarine?
Post # 16
I wanted something unique and special (and big) but I didn’t want Fiance to break the bank. I’m in nursing school and he’s thinking about going back to school. I also lose things easily and I’d feel really really really bad if I lost something super expensive. We’re having a rather modest wedding so I figured we should have more of the money go to that rather than a ring.
My mom always tells the story about how she got an “engagement microwave” instead of a ring. In the 70s they were new and exciting and thats what she wanted more. So traditional engagement rings have never been big on my priority list.
We picked it out together and I absolutely love it!