(Closed) Why did YOU want a gemstone?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i think i picked a colored gemstone because i like being difficult, and to me a big ole’ diamong plonked down in some gold is just too easy.  i’m not knocking any other lady here for having their preference, it’s just not mine for that piece of jewelry.  there is something about that deep, rich color; to be found in the ground with that brilliance inside, it’s a very romantic idea for me.  i just never bought into that whole ‘diamonds are so rare’…’symbolizes the purity of love’…blah blah blah.  to be fair i have clear diamond stud earrings that i adore, and a lovely dessert quartz pendant that everyone thinks is a big ole’ diamond.

when hubs asked what i would want i said “just no diamond center stone.”  we had discussed just getting matching bands and no engagement ring, but the more i went along the more i wanted a little something, a little sparkle.  i dropped subtle hints.

he shocked the hell out of me the night before the wedding with the beautiful set he picked, i started crying.  true story.

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Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@j.grossman13:  Oh.My.God that set is gorgeous.  And he picked it out??  I would have cried out of happiness too πŸ™‚  Like you I kind of wanted to order the e-ring only because I wasn’t sure how my matching wedding band would look (the reason is too long and boring to relate here πŸ™‚ and then when the ring was put on my finger, I was instantly sorry I hadn’t requested both.  I’m going to have to wait until next summer to get the wedding band but in the meantime, I’m going to solve the problem by just flipping the Claddagh around and have the crown face my heart to signify “married”.

You are a lucky, lucky girl. And the other rings on this thread are drool-worthy too πŸ™‚

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I love all the colored gemstone rings!  When we were ring shopping, we looked at diamonds, but none really stood out to me.  We were on a budget, and I was open to colored gemstone rings–my two top choices came down to a blue sapphire ring or a green sapphire–but I just knew the blue one was the right one.  I LOVE it–it’s really sparkly, it’s different than everybody else’s, it looks somewhat antique, and suits me really well.  

 

I DO love diamonds (and I had always assumed that’s what I’d get, until I put on the ring i have haha!) but I don’t like how expensive they are.  When we were looking, we saw a 1/3 carat diamond that was the same price as a 1.something carat green sapphire.  I wish that people felt more free to choose what speaks to them–colored stones, bands, necklace, non-jewelry item, or nothing.  I don’t like that society tells us that we must have a diamond.  

 

First time posting, so I hope I get the pictures sized right.  My ring is four small blue sapphires with a diamond halo and diamonds on the band.  There is also filigree and diamonds on the sides, but I didn’t get a good picture of that. 

 

 

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Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would have loved a pink sapphire but I love my diamond too.

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am another member of the ‘obsessed with  pink club’. Since I was young I always thought I would have a pink diamond Engagement Ring… now that I realize how much a pink diamond actually costs, Pink Sapphire  rings became my first choice.

I struggled with wanting a diamond, but i knew the size of ring I wanted was not in our budget and was not a good use of our money. I looked at the simulants and at moissanite and ultimately decided that I didn’t want something that was ‘pretending’ to be a diamond. I wanted a stone that was beautiful it its own right and would make it’s own statement.

This is one of the CAD renderings of my ring ( I don’t have any actual pics on this computer). Pink a white sapphires and two little ‘surprise diamonds on the sides.

Edit: I try to resize the picture but it never comes out smalller in my post. Sorry!

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@LovingMyMisterBarger: I have a tanzanite e-ring too! It’s very rare I’ve seen others with it.

I just said that my ring didn’t necessarily have to be a diamond. My friend had a ring lined with sapphires and it didn’t even LOOK like an e-ring, and I just realized in that moment that it could be whatever I wanted.

In retrospect though I’ve often been nervous about my e-ring because the gem is not as strong as a diamond gem and so it’s much more susceptible to scratches and fading over time. Something you might want to consider when picking the exact kind of gemstone that you want πŸ™‚

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@xx_ambyrr_xx: Moissanite is not pretending to be a diamond. It’s a gemstone in it’s own right with it’s own properties. Just because it is colorless does not mean it’s pretending to be a diamond. Are white sapphires also pretending to be diamonds too? πŸ˜›

I see where you are coming from though. I did not want to go the route of Asha/CZ for that reason. In my opinion, CZ really is just an imitation diamond (it’s purpose is to look as much like diamond as possible) but moissanite is a stone which should be admired for it’s own unique qualities, like it’s crazy sparkle!

Post # 40
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My center stone is a diamond and the two stones on the side are rubies.  I diamond is my birthstone and ruby is his.  I like the idea that we were both “represented” on my wedding ring πŸ™‚

Post # 41
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Worker bee

I chose a gemstone because I wanted a ring that was different. And I love color! Mine is a 1.3 carat yellow sapphire.

 

 

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Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@cbott–I LOVE your ring, and in fact, it was THE RING that convinced me that gemstone/non-diamond rings might be ok!  I love how it’s a super traditional setting, with the twist of color from the stone.  πŸ™‚

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@gill84: Ahh I love it! Half of the people that see my ring don’t even know what stone it is…which makes it all the more special to me πŸ™‚

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

I want a gemstone because I’m concerned about the ethics of the diamond trade, don’t care for colorless stones, love standing out and being different and finally – colorful = pretty!!! πŸ™‚ 

I am thinking of lab created gems, and like blue sapphire, yellow sapphire, aquamarine and tanzanite.  We’re pretty well established in our careers and in life now that we’re in our thirties, so money isn’t much of a factor and I could care less what anyone thinks about my jewelry, lol.  You get to a certain point in life, I think, where you say ‘don’t care’ when people interject their opinions without being asked.  As a matter of fact, I might just cut them off and say exactly that if someone mentioned that they only know of one gem in the world that = engagement to them.  Something like:

Them ‘Shouldn’t you only have a diamond for..’

Me: ‘don’t care’

Them ‘I really think that diamonds are the.. ‘

Me: ‘don’t care’

Them: ‘But what about traditions with.. ‘

Me: ‘don’t care’

You get the picture πŸ˜‰

 

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

To everyone who posted in this thread.

I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE everyone’s rings.  Seeing it all the rings like this makes me so jealous.  I wish my DH got me one like yours.

I have to admit that I am a tanzanite girl and I would have loved to get a tanzanite ring.

@pumpkinpatch…Oh and that yellow sapphire. OMG, I’m in love. That is such a beautiful ring.

Not that I would trade my diamond ring for what my DH picked because he did pick it out and put a lot of thought into it  (just like yours did) but if he got me a colored ring, I would’t be mad.  These are so gorgeous!

I’m not a materilistic person so I didn’t neccessarily need a diamond ring.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I always knew I wanted to incorporate my birthstone into my e-ring because its just so gorgeous. Originally I wanted a diamond center flanked by my birthstone on either side, but when it came time to actually design in (I have not found this style of ring ANYWHERE, so it was custom made), it just made more sense financially to have the center stone as my birthstone and the diamonds on either side.

I was shocked at how big the center stone was when I got it, and I just know there was absolutely NO WAY we could have afforded to have it if it were a diamond. The guy who made it did an amazing job selecting the stones. I’ve been wearing it for 17 months now and I still fall it love with it every time I look at it!

Also, hearing how much people spend on diamond rings makes me gag. My cousins cost 8k and I nearly died. Why??

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