(Closed) Why did YOU want a gemstone?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@DeathByDesign: I understand that moissanite is a gemstone that is not intended to simulate a diamond. I decided not to go with that one because I was looking for a step cut which is not done on moissanite.

The ‘pretending’ comment was more directed at CZ, asha, and those type of stones. I didn’t want to spend $500 on a CZ that looks like a 3 ct diamond that I could never afford anyway.

Apologies for not being clear.

Post # 48
3600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Frankly, I just like black stones more.

Post # 49
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m not one to follow trends, and a majority of people who have engagement rings have diamonds. I also think diamonds can be a little bland- I love color! (I’m also an artist). The only thing I get frustrated at is people thinking it’s not an engagement ring because it’s not a diamond. Damn you, DeBeers! lol

Post # 50
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I like to be different ! I opted for no wedding band but hinted very loudly for an anniversary band in the years to come to wear on my right hand 😉 I.e, I had my e-ring blessed at the altar with my hubby’s wedding band


Post # 51
10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Honestly diamonds just don’t “do it” for me. I remember watching platinum weddings and one of the brides from Miami had a gorgeous vera wang aqua from the Tiffany collection and I was hooked….. I just loved gemstones. When I was engaged to my son’s father abt 10 years ago I chose a blue sapphire because of Princess Di’s ring. I honestly love the sparkle that a blue gemstone gives. To me diamonds are a bit predictable and boring and I am neither. Well you could say that I am predictable in my unpredictability, but that’s for another post. Cost was never a real issue on my choice of a gemstone, it was just a bonus.

For anyone looking overstock has an amazing selection of gemstones for an amazing price. I actually feel like we were brilliant in the choice. Jewelers ask if it is a blue diamond. I actually scoff and say it looks NOTHING like a diamond it’s more sparkley. It is a gemstone.

Post # 52
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@DeathByDesign: “moissanite is a stone which should be admired for it’s own unique qualities, like it’s crazy sparkle!”

Sorry to derail the discussion a little, but isn’t it crazy how some people complain that moissanite is TOO sparkly, just because diamonds can’t sparkle as much? And so the fact that moissanite actually has superior fire and brilliance compared to even the best quality diamonds is held to be a strike against moissanite?


Back on topic, I did opt for a colorless stone but I continue to swoon over all the gorgeous colored gemstone rings on the Bee. If I hadn’t chosen moissanite, I would have loved an aquamarine or champagne colored stone.

Post # 53
3315 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We chose not to have engagement rings at all, and to have wedding rings with no stones.  First, I wore an engagement ring with a huge (inherited from my grandmother) diamond for twenty years.  I hated having to think about it when I was out after dark, or in an unsafe neighborhood, or traveling.  Even though it was insured, I feared it was big enough to make someone attack me to get it.

Second, there was the whole blood diamond thing.  Even if we could get conflict-free diamonds, my feeling is that the whole tradition that everyone has to have a diamond engagement ring is what keeps the price of diamonds high enough to fuel the trade in conflict diamonds.

Third, my wife is from a working class family.  To her, a big diamond would just have looked flashy and fake.

For the two of us, it was important to have rings signifying we were married, but not important that they have stones.  My wife had inherited a plain 22 karat yellow gold band from her grandmother, and that’s what she gave me.  I gave her a matching one that I found on eBay UK.

Post # 57
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

all these rings are beautiful.

i too am going for a gemstone. the reason. I LIKE BIG. and i also don’t want something everyone else has. and if my boyfriend had to buy me a 2 carat halo ring. it would run about $50,000 or more. yikes. another thing i like is if i get bored of the color or the stone, i can change it. the stone I’m going with is a smokey topaz. for a 2 carat stone it is around 50 bux. i looked at many gems this size $50-1000 bux. i ended up liking the cheapest one!! lucky for my bf!! but it means i can have everything else i want for a decent price!

Post # 58
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

my reasons are the same as everyone else i guess. I don’t like to be cookie cutter so a diamond was definitely out for me. I wanted to be different but judging from how many of us have gemstones I don’t know how much I really stand out anymore haha!

also I wanted something big and the only way to get something big that doesnt make you broke for the rest of your life is gemstone.

The ring I wear now is green amethyst cushion cut halo and the one I plan to wear when we get married is a blue topaz cushion cut halo.


Post # 59
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m sure Marilyn Monroe is rolling in her grave as I say this, but I just really dislike diamonds. Not specifically for ethical reasons (although that doesn’t help), but because everybody and their dog seems to have a diamond these days, and why would I want something that’s so commonplace?

I used to look at my mom’s engagement ring (which was a row of 5 diamonds) and think it was pretty, but then I would look at her wedding ring, a stunning dark blue oval sapphire surrounded by diamonds, and think how much more unique and beautiful it was.

Yes, diamonds sparkle, but I prefer rich colour over the glitz, and heck, if I was going to choose a stone for the sparkly, I’d pick moissanite over a diamond anyway because it doesn’t get much more sparkly than that.

My e-ring stone is a stunner of a marquise-cut green tourmaline and my wedding band will have two smaller matching tourmalines set into it. Not a diamond in sight, and I couldn’t be happier.

I also can’t get enough of posting photos of my ring, so here it is again:

Post # 60
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@sarsah82: you’ve got to post pics once you get your smoky topaz!!!!

I have a smoky topaz cocktail ring I got from my grandma – it’s my “dress up” ring for special occasions. It’s a *huge* ring, so not reasonable for everyday wear (it’s like 8 carats lol), but its so lovely. Are you planning to go with a halo for the topaz? The topaz I have has almost a halo design with tiny diamonds and that works really well with the smoky topaz stone.

Post # 61
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we went with a lab created diamond from diamond nexus labs.  i couldnt justify spending soooo much on a mind diamond so we got my ring 3.84 tcw for less than $600.00 and i love it. 

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