Post # 1
After going though a mc, then an operation, I have decided to postpone ttc. It’s been a long and exhausting emotional time. I know some bees have been through more and for a longer duration, but for me all this has been too much.
It has made me wonder why I wanted to have a baby in the first place.
Why did you want to have a baby? Did it end up working out?
Post # 3
We want to because we have always wanted & love kids.
Although we have about a year before we TTC
Post # 4
@lisha_1988: I love kids too, I am a teacher. I can only imagine having my own child to be very stressful and draining.
Post # 5
I grew up in a great family environment, I was/am close to my sister(s) and a couple of my cousins. It’s always been my intention to start a family of my own and Darling Husband and I agreed it was time. I love children but am not deluded in thinking they’re always sweet and polite, but I know the connection I have with my mother and I’m excited to experience it from the other perspective. I have an aunt/uncle without children and Darling Husband and I don’t want that life.
I didn’t answer your poll because I truly believe it’s all 3 – but without the ? at the end.
I’m very sorry you’ve been through so much. Take the time to grieve and recover.
Post # 6
I had a son and my Darling Husband didn’t have any kids.
I am a teacher and couldn’t imagine not having my own kids. I am so glad I had DS.
It didn’t work out, we found out he is sterile. We are looking at his genetics/hormones to see if he has sperm in there somewhere, but we may have to give up and move on.
Post # 7
We want to start a family. I know that I personally have always envisioned being a mom someday, and I know that my husband is going to be an AMAZING dad! 🙂
We’ve been through a mc recently as well and my heart goes out to you. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in my life and I will always miss my little one that I never got to hold. We are continuing to try though and I firmly believe that I will hold a little one in my arms one of these days. 🙂
Post # 8
I have ALWAYS wanted kids of my own. In a very mature, realistic, adult way. Never just in a omg kids are soooo cute…I want one of my own!!! For us it’s not about it’s the next logical step in life. OK, we dated, we’re engaged, we’re married, we have a house, I guess kids are next! It was always in our future.
So for me and us we would exhaust every option possible to conceive kids of our own. In the financial sense as well.
It took us 9 cycles to conceive. Longer than some and shorter than some. At the point when we got our BFP I had already mentally prepared myself that we would have needed intervention to conceive.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be in your shoes. Sending many good thoughts your way that it is possible for you & your husband to have a child of your own. *hugs*
Post # 9
I feel like time is running out, and I feel pressured. Not by Darling Husband but by time. I’ll be turning 32 this year.. I want 3 more years to myself. I also don’t want Darling Husband and I to drift apart. He always wanted a baby. I just don’t want a baby for awhile. The thing is that before I got with my Darling Husband I never wanted a baby. Always imagined adopting a child because there are so many children out there that need love. Maybe I said it enough times that my fate is leaning towards that and not of having a child of my own.
Post # 10
I have 5 sisters and I couldn’t imagen a life with out my own children. It isn’t always fun but it definitely is worth it. I cannot wait for our LO to come into this world and create a life of its own.
Post # 11
I’ve never been able to imagine my life without children. For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted nothing more than to be a mother.
Post # 13
If you had asked me a few years ago – before I was married and before I was TTC – I would have simply said what others have expressed… that I just knew I wanted kids. I had a deep, biological urge to reproduce. My husband also knew he wanted a family, but simply accepting a biological urge was not enough for him, so we began the throughtful, often difficult, process of defining WHY we wanted to have a baby.
For us, simply having a biological urge to reproduce or being expected to do so just wasn’t enough. We needed real, tangible reasons that having a child was right for *us* and we needed a lot of space to discuss the ins and outs of our decision – how would we go about trying to conceive? What would we do if we had a hard time getting pregnant/how far were we willing to go? How would we nurture our marriage as we grew as people and worked to expand our family? What type of partners and parents did we want to be? By asking ourselves these questions and really listening to each other’s answers, we were able to articulate the child-bearing need. We ditched the BCP and went to work. :o)
Now, after 8 months of TTC with no luck and an endometriosis diagnosis on the very near horizon, we are no less committed to starting a family, but the desire has hardened in some ways – I am in a constant battle with my body, hoping that I can *will* or wish my way to a baby, and my husband has become increasingly worried about my health. We are now facing a whole new set of scary questions – not “if” any longer, but “how” and “how far”?
Post # 14
I am a teacher and am excited about having my own. You learn alot from teaching…. what to do with your children… what not to try! I don’t want a whole army of children, but my husband and I do want children.
Post # 15
As long as I can remember i’ve wanted children. When I was a child people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up, and I would say “a mommy!” haha! Still to this day thats all I want to be, is a wife and a mother.
We were friends, we dated, we got engaged, we’ll be married this month. Soon after we’ll buy our first house and move out of our little apartment, once we do, we’ll start TTC.
Post # 16
Hi there, you’re very courageous to have gone through a mc.
I personnally am excited at planning a life without having children. I started questionning whether I wanted kids when I was planning my post-secondary studies and realized I did not want to raise children. There’s so many other things I want to do in life with my partner! I litterally have no free time because of a demanding carreer so the childless lifestyle suits me perfectly. One generation ago, having children was an expectation of society but in our current time, it is a choice, thankfully!
Good luck with the choices you have to make! 🙂