(Closed) Why do children automatically get judged as heathens? Rant

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I agree. It’s really frustrating. I also hate when people refer to children as “brats” or other rude words (Like on here, when people say things like “Why do parents think they can bring their little brats everywhere?”). WTH? Do people forget that they were a kid, once? And people had to put up with them, I’m sure. Were they someone’s “little brat”? Everyone has to be a child at one point, so I think people should be a little more accepting.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It is just that one naughty or mean kid, unfortunately, gives all kids a bad rap in some people’s mind.  Good kids are the greatest thing ever, but it only takes one bad dinner where a kid is hitting you with food or something and the parent doesn’t stop them -to put your guard up.

I love kids and it stinks when people “discriminate.”

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

To be honest I have noticed myself feeling irritated by the presence of children whenever I’m in public.  Like oh, WHY did they have to bring their KIDS?  I am trying to work on changing that because it is not fair to the parents or the children!  They are people, too.  I do feel like this has become a very kid-hating society like parents should just stay at home for the first ten years of their kids lives.  

 

Cbee is right, I think the brats of the world give the rest of the kids a bad rap.  The bad parents, too – the ones who don’t give a shit if their kid is acting out in public.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I find it funny that people have this attitude that kids should be automatically socially adjusted and then simultaneously they think kids do not belong in a public setting. So which is it? How do you expect them to learn how to BE in a public place? Am I talking about the movies or a 5 star restaurant, absolutely not, but spare me your withering glares when my child is singing “Twinkle Twinkle” waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store, thanks 🙂

 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Unfortuantely, the bad apples give the good kids a bad rap.  I do also think society as a whole is becoming much more kid-unfriendly for some reason.  People do seem to forget that they were kids once too, as a PP pointed out.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you can blame the parents who do not parent their children well for this because there are a LOT of people out there who let their kids run wild and don’t discipline and it puts a bad taste in people’s mouths. Those people have set the rest of you up who have well behaved children to be judged.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@KatyElle:  I admit I’m totally guilty of taking my child to a 5 star restaurant. We love dining at nice restaurants, so we wanted to get him used to acting like an adult. Granted, we went immediately after they opened (5 pm), so we were the only patrons there, and we called in advance to make sure it was okay. I’m proud to say my little one ate sushi with us, said “thank you” every time someone filled his water glass or put another piece of bread on his plate, and was otherwise quiet & courteous. We would have left if he would’ve acted otherwise (my Darling Husband would’ve taken him out to the car while I paid the bill & tipped our server). I think our server & the owner were shocked by how polite he was, they commented on it and I caught even the busboy who looked annoyed when we walked in smiling in our direction by the end of the evening 🙂

ETA: You’re right about it being frustrating to get dirty looks when your kid is just chatting or doing something normal for a kid in a “kid friendly” location. I just want to say something catty to the person, but I keep my mouth closed.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MrsFuzzyFace:  Nope, just singing. Not loud, not even off key haha! Add Autism to the mix and everyone has an opinion about her flapping her arms, flickering her fingers, or repeating herself. It used to be so much worse before she started therapy and school, and that definitely forces you to develop a strong backbone. It’s hard to be a kid these days!

@les105: 5 star outings are not in the realm of possibility for us… yet! But it makes me happy that a fellow parent is breaking through the stereotype! Dirty Delete just simply isn’t ready for it yet.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

This really upsets me. This is the reason my husband and I take our son everywhere! He rarely if every acts out. We raise him to be dignified. I have however seen kids act out in public places… and parent just ignore it. It drives me nuts!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@MsJ2theZ:  I’m guilty of judging because of experience with the bad parenting skills. As a former server, I had my fill of children running wild through the restaurant while the parents just smiled at them as if it were adorable or didn’t think it was a problem when their kids threw things at me repeatedly. It left a bad taste in my mouth. I’m working on it though! I know not all kids are like that, so I try to keep an open mind.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not even a parent, but I also hate how if a toddler has a meltdown in a store, everyone clucks their tongues and shakes their heads about how spoiled children are these days and how they never behaved like that when THEY were that age.

Really? You do not remember how you behaved when you were two years old. I’m sorry, you don’t. I promise you that you had meltdowns from time to time. That’s what toddlers DO. It doesn’t automatically make someone a bad parent.

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