- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
We’re getting married on a Friday and I’m ordering our (personalised) thank you cards on the Saturday with 2-day delivery so we will receive them by the Monday/Tuesday and hand write them that evening for anyone who gave a gift. We’re flying out for our honeymoon on the Thursday and I’d feel just awful not thanking people who had given us a honeymoon registry gift before we went and used it.
The people who just attended though… I’ll thank anyone who “contributed or helped” with the day, and anyone who had to travel a long way… but the rest of them I will probably just thank in person because I see them all often enough and will probably see them before I even go on holiday!
because people are rude and lazy and dont prioritize it because their mama didnt teach them better!
I cannot fathom why you wouldn’t write a thank you…
Based on some of these threads here on the Bee, this simple courtesy seems to be going away. I am one of those that still send “care packages”, and “get well soon” baskets on hospitals, so maybe I’m in the minority now but I still remember the days when an act of love is reciprocated by another act of love and acknowledgment.
Sure you “know” that you are thankful but for those people who cared enough to attend YOUR ceremony, a little thank you is truly a big thing. You’ll be surprised at how many people actually smile at receiving mail (me!) with a simple thank you.
My side of the family takes gift giving and thank you note writing very seriously. I actually really appreciate it about them.
My DHs side does not send thank yous or gifts. Every year his mom says, well now you’re X years old so no more birthdays…like it’s a funny thing to say.
That’s disgusting if someone doesn’t thank you!!! I feel like people have no manners these days, and it’s really sad.
I’m only 25 but growing up my dad made me write a thank-you note for EVERYTHING. I hated it because no one else I knew was forced to write them lol. But I’m so glad my dad made me do that now 😊
That is sooo rude!! I had over 200 people at my wedding and made sure I hand wrote every thank you! I think it’s inexcusable not to send thank yous!
It was ingrained in me since childhood. 🙂 (my mom found my thank you notes and letters in my gmas things after she passed.
I’m horrible with thank you cards- my Future Mother-In-Law gave me a beautiful new set of flatwear when we (finally) announced we were engaged- so beginning of August- I still haven’t sent one.
nothing personal- I just haven’t had a chance to go out of my way to do it. I thanked her in person- and I feel guilty for not sending one- but I’m a busy ass person. I have to agree with Soph though- I never give gifts expecting cards- and I am never annoyed when I don’t get a card- I gave the gift – the person (hopefully) enjoyed it- win win.
Darling Husband and I did thank you notes (aka I did them and he signed them and closed the envelope) for the jack and jill we had, as well as the wedding. We felt it was proper and his family is very conservative. If we had not done thank you notes then it would have went down HORRIBLY in his family. Mine care less, but almost everyone had to travel about a half hour to our venue and I felt that they were appropriate. My sister hasn’t sent thank you cards and doesn’t plan to – and her wedding was just under a year ago. It made me sad to think about how many people were really generous at her wedding and how little she really appreciated it. 🙁
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