(Closed) Why do dates fill up so FAST?

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

ElephantAndTheFlea :  Why do you have to be done teaching for the summer to have your wedding? I mean you get married on a Saturday… what does it matter. Have a May wedding!

 

Post # 17
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Newbee

I am in the same situation.  Recently engaged and looking for a Saturday in June 2018.  My top choice was completely booked up, but we accepted it and moved on.  We now have tours scheduled for 10 venues.  I would just keep emailing places and asking for their availability.  There should still be plenty of great options out there!  You have plenty of time.

 

Post # 18
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

anatheanalyst :  I kind of see her point on wanting to wait until school is out. I would NOT have wanted to go back to work 2 days after my wedding! We did not leave on our honeymoon right away, we waited 4 days, but I took 2.5 weeks off work total. There are so many gifts and items that need to be gone through, not to mention you just want to spend time with your new hubby and going back to work right away seemed like the last thing I wanted to do. 

OP, I say look at other venues or if you are set on that venue, consider moving it out more towards July maybe?

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

jackjackattck :  I am an idiot haha I only thought of the pre wedding aspect like.. why do you need time off before when most people plan with jobs. I did not think of the post wedding aspct obviously she wants time off. My apologies!!!

Sorry, OP. Maybe you can widen your area search or type of venue? I know that here in Toronto and outside area summer saturday (not just June) fill up 2 years plus.

Post # 20
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

my advice: look for unconventional event spaces that are not branded as wedding venues. these places often have more availability and hold all sorts of events, not just weddings, and are often not booked as far out. i got married at haven’s kitchen in NY, which has an event space but is also a cooking school, bakery/coffee shop and living room. other ideas: outdoor spaces, private property (can you rent a big property and hold your wedding/reception in the back yard)?

Post # 21
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161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Additionally – winter wedding = major discounts and less competitive bookings. 

 

ETA: i had a december wedding that i planned in 3 months and i got my top choice vendors who would otherwise have been booked out for the entire following year.

Post # 22
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Newbee

ElephantAndTheFlea :  oh man, tell me about it! I’m getting married this June and booked the venue last February. Admittedly, it is a V popular venue but I was so shocked when I looked at online calendars and saw how booked out everything was! You can do it!

Post # 23
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637 posts
Busy bee

ElephantAndTheFlea :  Can you do May and just take a few days of PTO?

People who havent planned a wedding recently dont understand how fast things book. I had a LONG engagement (FI’s brother got engaged 3 months before us and we decided to let them have their time separate from us – no pressure from them at all, but it just felt right).  I booked my June wedding 20 months in advance and I was the second Saturday in June! At the 1 year mark I started to have trouble getting my 1st choice vendors. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

anatheanalyst :   jackjackattck :  I’m a teacher who got married in May and went right back to work. I mean, it would’ve been nice to have a week off or whatever, but lots of people go right back if they’re delaying their honeymoon. Presents can be opened at night and maybe it’s because I already live with Darling Husband before we were married, but nothing really changed there. I would think having to go back to work right away would be preferable to having to wait another year to get married or not getting a venue you love. 

Post # 25
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

ElephantAndTheFlea : 

The short of my advice is, if you want a long engagement to get the exact venue you want do it.  If you don’t, don’t worry there are other venues out there.  Some havent even been BUILT yet.  The Venue I booked didn’t even have it’s grand opening beofre I booked it.

Your issue exactly why I wanted a LOOOOONG engagement.  I got engaged july this year, and we had plannedo n September 2018.  I started researching venues immediately wiht my moms help.  It gave us time to be REALLY choosy.  After we thought we had found THE venue, we stumbled on a place that had just finished being constructed that spring.  It was perfect, underbudget, and close to my moms house. We weren’t even allowed to book it more than a year out, but we made a few calls and where able to book it a year and 8 months ahead of time.  We ended up changing our date to June 2018 because the venue was much better for a summer wedding, and it went better with everyone’s schedules.  Now since I’m a june bride, I’m trying to get all my vendors booked ASAP.  I really don’t want anyone to beat me to anything I want.  I guess you could say it’s brides like me who make it harder for women with shorter engagements, but I LOVE weddings and I don’t want to over pay or compromise, so the only thing to do is to start super early.  Honestly I was more annoyed that I had to push my date up, becuase I LOVE having all this time.

Everyone is always so astonished that I wanted a long engangement, but I love it.   I want all my vendors booked over a year in advance so I can do all the other prep.  If I had it my way they would already all be booked, but my mom wants me to be patient.  The year before my wedding is going to be mainly DIY and logistics planning, and I get to take my time.  My cousin had a shorter engement, about one year.  She’s been a stress ball for a year and has over paid on a few things because of the time crunch.  I didn’t want that.   

My family is crazy DIY, so I want a full year to be able to craft and plan.   We’re making all the decorations, invites, deocrations ourselves.  We’re even goin to make the cocktail hour h’or deuvres, late night snacks, and the cake (my SIL make BEAUTIFUL professional looking cakes).  I wantto take my time, enjoy the process, and smell the roses.  Waht’s an extra year when we are going to spend the rest of our lives together anyway?

Post # 26
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Honey bee

I went right back to work after getting married and we went on our honeymoon a month later. Is that an option? When I got married (2013) things were starting to get very competitive and planing a year out was a little tough. Now it seems like two years is the norm, and anything under is difficult to get top choices! Good luck, I hope you can make another date work and get your favorite venue!

Post # 27
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505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Venues definitely fill up quickly.  We started looking at venues about 10-11 months out for an April wedding.  At my top choice, everything in March and April was booked.  At his top choice, the date we really wanted (our current anniversary) was taken.  We had to chose a different date around the same time when it wasn’t too chilly or too hot and the date is actually now a better conversation piece.  (April Fools Wedding)

Post # 28
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1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m getting married in June 2018 too! I booked my venue back in November because I was worried about that happening to me. I feel kind of awkward contacting vendors because so many of them are like oh wow your wedding is so far away and make me feel crazy for planning so early, but then I hear stories like yours and feel like I need to have the whole wedding planned like yesterday. The whole thing is pretty nuts. 

I’m in the Midwest too. I can’t imagine what this is like in NYC or LA!

ETA: I’ll be taking my medical specialty boards a few weeks after the wedding so we are delaying our honeymoon til late July. Is that something you could consider so you could have the venue you love?

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I found my dream venue a year and a half ahead of time, the month after I got engaged.  I wanted a saturday in July or August. (Also a teacher but our school year runs beginning of september to end of june.)  All were booked.  They had one friday and 2 sundays left.  Took the Friday date.  My wedding was amazing.  The fact that it was Friday didnt cause any issues at all.  It was easier to book vendors.  Plus, we had the whole weekend to have fun afterward!

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