- Mrs. Mary Jane
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
The man and I often get in to philosophical discussions when we have some downtime (like when we’re traveling, for example). The other day, the question he posed was:
Why do you want to get married?
To clarify, this is a different question from "why do you want to marry your S/O". I don’t think anyone had ever asked me this question before, and I found answering it to be really fun and challenging.
We don’t have the moral, religious, or familial objections to how we live right now.. we live together, share all the bills, pretty much we live ‘as married’ though we aren’t. So… why bother with marriage? "It’s tradition" wouldn’t be a passable answer for me, since I’m a rather fickle gal when it comes to such things.
I actually wished we had a notebook/tape recorder, because some of the stuff we said would make great vow material. But, to paraphrase…
I want to get married because I’ve always thought it to be one of the biggest decisions of your life, and one of the most romantic ones for sure. I think it’s a logical next step, when you’re more to someone than their boyfriend/girlfriend, and you’ve found "the one". I feel that we all need a partner (in crime and in triumph!), someone to take care of, someone to take care of us, someone to be our family now that we’re grown up and somewhat separated from our parents/siblings/etc. When I meet new people, I always notice if they have a wedding ring. If they do, I often will wonder what their spouse is like, whether they’re happy, etc.. I’ll hope positive things for their present and future. I’ve always been that way – is that weird? Anyway, I think that marriage (the act of wearing the rings, having the papers, sharing the legalities and even the last name) is the most outward way to show that you’re eternally connected to this one other person, which I think is extremely romantic. And when it comes to romance, I DO have some traditional tendancies. Like the desire be his wife.
I rambled along this line for a long time… after which, the man finally said… "You never once said you wanted to get married because you love me". LOL. (But I think that falls along the line of "why do I want to marry my S/O…" not so much the marriage in general thing – so I’m safe right?)
Anyway… I thought this’d be a good question for the hive.
Why do YOU want to get married? Or before you got married, why did you want to? Other thoughts about this?