Why do exes love to try and start trouble… I will never understand.

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Exes can be a bit nutty. Sometimes I don’t even think they honestly still want the person or even thought about them until learning they were getting married. My ex husband out of the blue text me asking if I wanted to spend Halloween (my birthday) in Vegas with him and his co-workers last month. We hadn’t spoken a word to one another in over a year. He didn’t start with, Hey how are you or anything just straight to a weekend in Vegas. lol Crazy! I believe his cousin mentioned I was getting married which prompted this but I didn’t ask. Simply let him know it was a nice gesture but not appropriate bc I’m getting married. Haven’t heard from him since that conversation.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Maybe it says something about me, but any exes of mine wanted to be as rid of me as possible! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

kathrynmarisam2017 :  Blackmail from four years ago that could derail your wedding? I would have had a chuckle about that  too. 😅 Whatever he thinks he might have is irrelevant in the present. Let it go and be thankful you’re no longer attached to his craziness. 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Sorry you have to deal with this! My ex-fiance told everyone I cheated on him when we broke up. Luckily, that died down pretty quickly and I thought he would leave me alone, but when Darling Husband and I got engaged, he took a photo off of my Facebook where the wind had caught part of my dress and it was fluttering in front of me in the wind and started sending it to a bunch of people telling them we only got engaged because I was pregnant. He even sent it to my best friend/MOH who was like, “Um. Shut up. Pretty sure I would know before you if she was pregnant, which she definitely isn’t.” That was nice. Especially since a picture posted 2 days before showed I was most definitely NOT pregnant, nor did the picture even look like I was pregnant- just looked like the wind since my hair was also blowing like crazy. 

About a year later he texted me and apologized with the excuse that “the girl he was dating at the time did not bring out the best in him” Mmmmmmmhmmmmmmm sure.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I haven’t had it with an ex. However, I did have a friend of several years. We don’t live close so it was a long distance friendship and we’d maybe check in once in a blue moon. I listened to him for years sulk over a woman that didn’t return the same affection for him. Tried to help him heal and move on but he was set in his ways I suppose. So, I really never saw him as more than a friend.

Well, during one “checkup”, I casually mentioned that I started a relationship and he immediately turned into a stone wall and ignored me promptly for quite awhile. Finally when he came back, he acted as if all was normal and I called him out on the behavior. He then went into this huge confession/rant about how he’s had feelings for me all along and so on…

I pretty much shut it down quick and we took a long break as friends. Briefly caught up with him and realized that he just wasn’t a truly good friend. The relationship was very one sided and we have different lives/maturity levels which made it hard to truly relate. So, at that point, I just let it go.  No point.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

kathrynmarisam2017 :  

I think it depends on the EX. Not all exs are psycho & then you have those that will boil you’re cat in a pot before you get home from work. I personally don’t have any crazy ex-boyfriends. When we parted ways, that was that. Nobody tried to get into contact with the other after the relationship failed. My husband however has a psycho ex that he can’t seem to shake. They dated back in 2008, and it lasted about 6 months. They broke up and remained friends; my husband being 18 at the time knowing she was an easy booty call and she wasn’t bright enough to pick it up. When we started dating he still spoke to her here and there, holidays and she would message to ask how he was doing. Then she started stalking my social media, and reposting photos of them together.

Needless to say that was 3 years ago, and my husband blocked and deleted her off everything. I just started to block her as the years progressed as she’d mesasge me. A week before the wedding she messaged him on SnapChat saying she missed him and all that jazz. I messaged her and told her listen you might love him, but he doesn’t love you. I don’t appreciate you calling him baby, hun and all that because it’s disrespectful please stop. She told me I was delusional and that they were getting married and going to have babies. OKAY THEN.

I had cops at my wedding best $500 I ever spent.

Flash foward to this week (married for 4 months now) and she DM’s me a picture of the two of them kissing from back in 2009 with the caption saying “HE IS MINE”

PSYCHO!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

I have this one ex (if you can even call him that, he was never officially my boyfriend) who after I told him I didn’t want to see him any more, he flipped out. He kept trying to be my “friend,” except at this point I was dating Darling Husband and I said I didn’t think he’d like it. Ex was like, “he doesn’t have to know!” Riiiight. Because I was young and stupid, I’d respond to the texts he sent me about once a month to see how life was going,  which would quickly turn into him asking if I was still dating “the cop.” Eventually I learned not to reply, but he kept going for a while where he’d text me every few months or so. It took around two years to be fully rid of him. Which is hilarious because he didn’t seem to care for me much when we would hang out before. 

Some people just want what they can’t have! 

ETA: I was only with that guy for a couple of months. Some people are just wacky!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My husband’s ex would send him random text messages like “I can still make you happy” while we were engaged (although I’may not sure she was aware we were.  she even sent a dirty picture of herself once.  multiple emails like “I need your help” and begging him to contact her….. He ignored every single email and text. 

She got remarried shortly after our wedding. (She’said the type that needs to be taken care of-so she was bound to hook someone). Thank God we haven’t heard  from either of our ex’s in a lot going time.  

Ignore, ignore, ignore.  it works.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

railroaderwifeyxo :  I think your husband needs to be the one to put her in her place here. Her psychotic behaviour isn’t going to stop, and I think it’s your husband’s job now to be very direct and tell her to permanently back off. She obviously has no respect for you and nothing you say will make her quit her behaviour, in fact it will only feed her ego even more. Your hubby needs to step in and do something here (it’s his job, as your husband, to defend you and your relationship).

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

kathrynmarisam2017 :  I haven’t been with my ex for 3 years, both of us are married, and he still occasionally messages me threatening to sue me over the belongings he left at my house, or that I owe him money, or whatever. They are nuts!!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My husbands ex is a nutbag too! She remarried a year before we got married and is sooooooooo jealous. She’s always questioning my intentions. She calls him to make sure he’s ok. She tells him he’s lost his light and she misses her best friend. I’d be worried if he didn’t think she was nuts too 😉 Luckily for me my ex has been out of my life for years we have a daughter together and he hasn’t seen her in 4 years (that’s a sad part). 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

railroaderwifeyxo :  Whoa, “HE IS MINE?” I would reply, “Not according to the federal government sweetie, but cute pic. I love seeing photos of him from so long ago.”

(Actually, I wouldn’t say anything, because she sounds Fatal Attraction crazy!)

Post # 15
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Worker bee

A few months ago, FI’s ex approached his mom at a restaurant and started telling her how it was a mistake that she cheated on him and how he was the love of her life. Fiance and I have been together for four years. FI’s best friend’s mom passed away a month ago  and she showed up to the funeral. Didn’t bother talking to the family or offer any condolences – she was there and mingled with some people she knew like it was an awkward middle school social gathering. She saw us there and it was super strange. She also made about 10 fake Instagram accounts to attempt to lurk us and for some reason is in contact with his aunt? Lol

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