(Closed) why do friends always say the worst things???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Your friend is wrong..,and not very supportive, it sounds like. Plus, 19 months isn’t an incredibly long time. Just because your friend is on the fast track in her new relationship does not mean yours is “wrong.” I had lots of friends meet, get engaged and get married before Darling Husband and I ever did. I still think ours is the best, shhh. πŸ˜‰ <– I’m kidding, but I love how ours has moved along.

Relationships move at different paces depending on the people in them. It sounds like you guys are doing just fine. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww, hey, I wouldn’t worry about what she said.  No one really knows a relationship looking in from the outside.  If you feel confident about your future together, no need to worry what others say.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ignore your friend. People are ready at different times.  Some are ready when they’re in their twenties, others in their thirties; some after a few months others take years (my 33 year old SO is not ready after 2.5 years together).  You’re relationship is no less valid than hers. I don’t know how old you are, but unless you need to get on the baby train, 19 months is nothing.  There are Waitingbees on here who have been with their SOs 5+ years. You and I are just newbees!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mrssoontobeh:  I wouldnt let it bother you! She was rude for saying it like that. And my SO didn’t ask what I liked and he was already planning it. He is actively planning on proposing now..I keep finding hints( shhh!!) I would try to avoid friends like that. Don’t let it get to you!!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

There is no possible way that your friend, whom you haven’t seen in six months, could have ANY idea what your SO is thinking.  What she gave to you was her opinion, and her opinion only.  Further, her opinion has no bearing whatsoever on what will happen between you and your Fiance. Try not to let her comment bother you.

Post # 8
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

She’s an urchin.

Post # 9
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3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My husband never mentioned a word… because he was in planning mode. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How does she know?! You said you haven’t seen/talked to her in six months..she’s just being rude for some reason.

No one knows except the two of you.

Post # 11
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

She’s wrong. One of my best friends was proposed to without any warning because her (now) husband picked out the ring on his own. Not everyone asks for preferences. I have the feeling that my SO wants to pick out a ring entirely on his own, too, and I have very good reason to believe that a proposal is coming in the next few months.

Post # 13
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370 posts
Helper bee

My SO is not the type to ask me what kind of ring i’d like. He will choose it himself although I have added my input without his asking πŸ˜‰ I wouldnt worry about it dosen’t mean anything that he hasn’t asked you every man is different.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That is crazy rude. 

Post # 15
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340 posts
Helper bee

No it is not true! Everyone has different timelines, all guys are different, and yours is just taking his time and that is okay. She just found someone that moves fast and knows what he wants. If your SO talks about being together forever then you are set. That is so sweet and romantic of him to say. Also, enjoy the time you are dating rather than rushing it. Sorry about that girl πŸ™

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@mrssoontobeh:  That’s exactly what my husband said about his proposal… which I botched a few times along the way and was completely clueless about (if he asks you to go to a nice dinner, don’t invite other people~ doh!)  He really wanted to surprise me.

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