(Closed) Why do girls want to marry these kind of guys?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh wow thats so brutal! I think the person answered it correctly though…some girls just fall hard i guess….I am sure she will read this one day and be like “what the HECK was a i thinking” *laugh*

Post # 5
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

because they have low self-esteem.

Post # 6
990 posts
Busy bee

thats crazy…my FI’s mom went through the same thing, having an affair for years and when he told her he was going to marry someone else, she still wanted to carry on the affair…this went on from the late 70’s till about 3 years ago. 40 years following a man who not only didnt want to be with you publicly, but marry someone else…SMH

Post # 7
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I used to have a best friend who was constantly in horrible relationships, like this and much worse for the 4 years we were best friends. Each day was a new drama, and it was so exhausting picking up the broken pieces every week just to have it happen all over again.

One of the previous posters is exactly right: low self esteem. We are no longer friends but from what I understand she hasn’t changed a bit.

Post # 8
604 posts
Busy bee

Tha’s awful. I think almost every girl has one of these crazy experiences and then actually realizes (hopefully) that they are worth more than to continue being with these guys. I was fooling round for a guy for about a whole year and then I found out on Valentine’s Day through facebook that that he asked this girl he had been seeing for about a month to be his gf..I also had class with this guy and lets say that for the following three months I gave him the evil I, met my current SO and have been happy ever since because I am now with someone worth while

Post # 9
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

these situations are so sad to me. to think that someone is so oblivious. i mean her ex is telling her that he is with someone else and even LOVES someone else and she still does not get the hint. i would be sad and upset but as soon as i found out he was even flirting/messing around with someone else it would be over.

ppl do hold on to the past, and it is hard not to sometimes. I have problems frogetting the past (more negative things than positive though b/c my past was sad but my present is great) so i guess i sometimes do the same thing but in the reverse? 

anywho..i hope she took that ladies advice…

Post # 10
1456 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I think it takes a lot of courage to sort of break the status quo and get out of an emotionally comfortable (and probably for the guy… physically comfortable) relationship.  A lack of selfesteem definitely plays a role.

Post # 11
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

errr ouch.. and talk about sad situation.

Post # 12
1046 posts
Bumble bee

I dated a guy like that when I was young… first love I guess you could say. Although I let him break my heart way too many times it did teach me a valuable lesson: never love someone more than they are capable of loving you and if they can’t be faithful they really aren’t interested.

Makes me realize how lucky I am now to have hubby… I couldn’t imagine actually being engaged to someone like that though.

Post # 13
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I feel really bad for her – I think we’ve all been in situations, romantic or otherwise, where we were too close emotionally to think objectively anymore. Hopefully she listens to the advice she was given.

Post # 15
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I think part of it is the idea that they can change the person, give them one more chance.  The time they invested is worth it in their mind until they realize their significant other won’t change and doesn’t want to.

Post # 16
2346 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I was in a situation like that, ( thankfully not engaged) and I still dont know what I was thinking, I hope at best she gets a life lesson out of this.

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