(Closed) Why do guests think Save the Dates are the invitations?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Have guests thought your save the dates were the actual invitation?
    Yes : (39 votes)
    48 %
    No : (43 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d heard lots of bees say this too!  We didn’t have this problem though… It’s funny because they are so clear! 🙂  ha!

    Post # 4
    2580 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s partly a generational thing, Save the Dates are still sort of a newer concept. My friend’s grandparents were so confused by them, they wondered why she and her fiance were sending out invitations over 6 months in advance! I think as long as it says, “formal invitation to follow”, people should figure it out!

    Post # 5
    2906 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My husband thought they were invitations even though we discussed it!

    Post # 7
    7693 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Our guests didnt think they were invitations, but we did have a few people RSVP on our website right after the save the date. Honestly I think people are probably just RSVPing on the website because they have the option to do so and if they know they are definitely coming or not coming then why not tell you early? That way you dont have to wait months and months for an actual card to be sent back.

    Post # 9
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We sent out STD magnets so we didn’t hear of anyone thinking they were the actual invites.

    Post # 10
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    not yet, but we only sent out save the dates to a few key people (like our moms) and were really clear about them ‘just being a rreminder’ (ours also say ‘formal invitation to follow’ to dispell confusion).

    Post # 11
    31 posts

    Well Save-The-Date Cards are a relatively new thing. In fact, with the exception of my own wedding, I have not received Save-The-Date Cards for like the last dozen or so weddings I have attended. Our Save-The-Date Cards were obvious that they were not invitations as I had them done as business cards and simply tossed them in with the Christmas cards months before the wedding.

    Post # 12
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    only some of our our older guests think they were the invites. it’s definitely a generational thing.

    Post # 13
    2820 posts
    Sugar bee

    We’ve had people ask us right after we received the STD whether we’re going or not – they still sent an invitation with an RSVP card but I guess wanted a head count early.  Actually I think all the recent weddings I’ve been to I’ve received some phone call or email saying did you get the STD, do you think you guys can come?  I just chalk it up to people excited about the wedding, but it does make it confusing knowing when you’re supposed to respond and if you’ve technically already responded.

    Post # 14
    6890 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    As the PP said it is a realtively new thing, in fact I never heard of them until joined Wedding bee, all weddings ever been invited to were just the actual invites. I know if I had done STD’s people in my area would have been confused also.

    Post # 15
    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yup. No one has tried to RSVP, but tons of guests think it’s our official invitation… even though it says SAVE THE DATE – FORMAL INVITATION TO FOLLOW. I guess they’ll get it when they receive the actual invite?

    Post # 16
    994 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Save the Dates are definitely only 5 years old or so at this point, I have good friends who got married in 2002 and we were just talking about this, how they weren’t even heard of back then. So I can see where older generations may get confused — though I do think it’s funny! 🙂

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