(Closed) Why do guys do this?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your FI tell you if he'll be late? Do you care?
    He usually tells me : (38 votes)
    42 %
    He usually doesn't tell me : (16 votes)
    18 %
    I care whether he tells me : (34 votes)
    38 %
    I don't care whether he tells me : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I know that my man intentionally does not answer the question “when will you be home” to avoid that expectation. It’s wildly frustrating to me (I like to plan and have a schedule, husband does not), but I’ve had to learn to let it go. I trust that he’ll get himself home safely, but if I don’t get a text and it becomes a habit, I get so fiesty!

    Post # 4
    Member
    5093 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @redheadem: My Fiance does this ALL THE TIME.  I pisses me off to no end.  He’s gotten a lot better about it recently, but it still happens.

    Post # 6
    Member
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Cause they don’t worry their handsome heads off like we worry our pretty little ones.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I understand your concern but give the guy a break a little. Yes the game may have ended at 10:00; ok now count in time to get through the mass of people. From what I’m reading his friend lost his keys and they’re looking for them. That was probably their first priority, not calling. He probably said 10:30 bc sporting events dont have exact stop times and go faster or longer and it was probably a guesstimate. I’d be appreciative that he keeps in contact with you frequently to let you know bc alot of guys don’t. I know your concerned and worried, who wouldn’t be; but it’s not worth it to me to be so upset about.

    Post # 8
    Member
    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    That sucks, I would be so annoyed!! Although, I use to do the same thing to my ex all the time,  I use to be really bad about keeping track of time. My SO ended that real fast though, he didn’t call home once and I flipped- only to hear “sucks, don’t it?. Hmm point taken.  He should have at least text you, but at least he did let you know before he came home at 11pm(ish)

    Post # 9
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I will admit.. I am the one who doesn’t care.  DH works late 2 nights a week and gets home when he gets home.  Sometimes he calls, sometimes he doesn’t.  And he rarely hangs with the boys at night so when he does I enjoy the time by myself.  And it also because he will at least send a text to keep me updated usually.  

    It could also be we are still in the honeymoon stage! 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    145 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Typical guys! My Fiance does this all the time, and i do care whether he tells me or not cuz i am worried about him! We have argued on this for times and i think he’s getting better, but deep in his mind, i know he still thinks i should not make a fuss about it, he’s just tired of the arguments…

    Post # 11
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    2158 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My Fiance used to do this (once he got off work around seven and he didn’t get home til almost 2 am) but I told him that I’d like to know when to expect him so I don’t worry, and now he’s usually pretty good at telling me when he’ll be home.

    Post # 13
    Member
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He always tells me as soon as plans change.

    Post # 14
    Member
    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    This is why Mr. LK and I have Google latitude tracking enabled on our phones. I can know where he is, he can know where I am, and all is well with the world. 🙂

    Post # 15
    Member
    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee

    i’ve had to work with SO about telling me if he is going to be late, or is not going to be home when i get home from work. i just think it is a safety thing. if he is taking longer than expected to get home, and hasn’t texted me, i WILL try and get ahold of him. i’m so worried he’ll have been in an accident or something. plus, i like to know when i get home if he’s going to be home or not if i plan on making dinner or something. i just like to know where he is if i need to get ahold of him, or something. i always tell him where i’m going or if i’m going to be later than expected. i usually send him a text everyday if i know he’s home when i leave the office. 

    i think it stems a lot from the fact that’s how i was raised. i always had to tell my mom where i was going, with who, and when i would be home, and to contact her if the plans changed.

    Post # 16
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    He usually tells me. I care. I’m not obsessive but I do start worrying around the half hour late mark. My mind starts running and I start wondering if maybe he was in an accident or something. Like I said though, he’s pretty good about telling me.

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