Post # 1
Ugh. Fiance went to a basketball game and told me he’d be home at 10:30 (even though the game ended at 10:00 and it takes longer than 30 minutes to drive there, but ok). Then I get a text from him at 10:45 saying they’re looking for his friend’s keys and he has to drive his friend home. WTF? It didn’t cross his mind to call me once he realized he was going to be late after explicitly telling me he’d be home at 10:30? I understand that things come up but shouldn’t he have told me this at about 10:05 so I wasn’t worried? The game is in a horrible part of town, where we used to live, where people get mugged in broad daylight, and my house was broken into three times in six months. Gee, sorry if I’m worried!
Post # 3
I know that my man intentionally does not answer the question “when will you be home” to avoid that expectation. It’s wildly frustrating to me (I like to plan and have a schedule, husband does not), but I’ve had to learn to let it go. I trust that he’ll get himself home safely, but if I don’t get a text and it becomes a habit, I get so fiesty!
Post # 4
@redheadem: My Fiance does this ALL THE TIME. I pisses me off to no end. He’s gotten a lot better about it recently, but it still happens.
Post # 5
He knows I get anxious about it, so I don’t understand why he can’t make a 30 second phone call before he is late instead of after the time he said he’d be home. Apparently, he believes that if he doesn’t acknowledge he’ll be late, I won’t notice that he’s late? Haha whatever.
Post # 6
Cause they don’t worry their handsome heads off like we worry our pretty little ones.
Post # 7
I understand your concern but give the guy a break a little. Yes the game may have ended at 10:00; ok now count in time to get through the mass of people. From what I’m reading his friend lost his keys and they’re looking for them. That was probably their first priority, not calling. He probably said 10:30 bc sporting events dont have exact stop times and go faster or longer and it was probably a guesstimate. I’d be appreciative that he keeps in contact with you frequently to let you know bc alot of guys don’t. I know your concerned and worried, who wouldn’t be; but it’s not worth it to me to be so upset about.
Post # 8
That sucks, I would be so annoyed!! Although, I use to do the same thing to my ex all the time, I use to be really bad about keeping track of time. My SO ended that real fast though, he didn’t call home once and I flipped- only to hear “sucks, don’t it?. Hmm point taken. He should have at least text you, but at least he did let you know before he came home at 11pm(ish)
Post # 9
I will admit.. I am the one who doesn’t care. DH works late 2 nights a week and gets home when he gets home. Sometimes he calls, sometimes he doesn’t. And he rarely hangs with the boys at night so when he does I enjoy the time by myself. And it also because he will at least send a text to keep me updated usually.
It could also be we are still in the honeymoon stage! 🙂
Post # 10
Typical guys! My Fiance does this all the time, and i do care whether he tells me or not cuz i am worried about him! We have argued on this for times and i think he’s getting better, but deep in his mind, i know he still thinks i should not make a fuss about it, he’s just tired of the arguments…
Post # 11
My Fiance used to do this (once he got off work around seven and he didn’t get home til almost 2 am) but I told him that I’d like to know when to expect him so I don’t worry, and now he’s usually pretty good at telling me when he’ll be home.
Post # 12
@adnama: If only all men only needed to hear something once. Sigh….
Post # 13
He always tells me as soon as plans change.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
This is why Mr. LK and I have Google latitude tracking enabled on our phones. I can know where he is, he can know where I am, and all is well with the world. 🙂
Post # 15
i’ve had to work with SO about telling me if he is going to be late, or is not going to be home when i get home from work. i just think it is a safety thing. if he is taking longer than expected to get home, and hasn’t texted me, i WILL try and get ahold of him. i’m so worried he’ll have been in an accident or something. plus, i like to know when i get home if he’s going to be home or not if i plan on making dinner or something. i just like to know where he is if i need to get ahold of him, or something. i always tell him where i’m going or if i’m going to be later than expected. i usually send him a text everyday if i know he’s home when i leave the office.
i think it stems a lot from the fact that’s how i was raised. i always had to tell my mom where i was going, with who, and when i would be home, and to contact her if the plans changed.
Post # 16
He usually tells me. I care. I’m not obsessive but I do start worrying around the half hour late mark. My mind starts running and I start wondering if maybe he was in an accident or something. Like I said though, he’s pretty good about telling me.