- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
So, I recently posted about my good colleague friend telling me he had been starting to have feelings for me, so I had to shut that down. What I didn’t mention is that I’m new to this city, and as DH isn’t here until sept., I’m a bit lonely.
I have succeeded in making said colleague understand that we can’t hang out anymore, so that means that for now I’m down a friend. However, I’ve been friendly with my female neighbour and that’s been interesting…but she’s a bit clingy. I’d like to meet a lot of people, and not only spend time with her, and she’s getting a bit suffocating. I have a hard time saying no to her, which is kind of already a warning sign as I should be able to do whatever I want! I’m an adult, in a new city, I should feel free right!
My ideas that she might be a bit too clingy were validated today. Last she called 1 trillion times, and I didnt hear as my phone was in my bag, and then I came home and went to bed. Then this morning, after sleeping in quite late, I see a message on my phone ‘Ok, I understand everything, I’ll never call you again, thanks a lot.’
I realise now that I shouldn’t have, but I responded saying ‘don’t be silly, I was just sleeping, what are you up to today?’ She calls…immediately…and invites to me to grocery shopping together, hey why not I think.
While out, she tells me her husband had hit her, and naturally I was worried! We talked about that for a while, and she apparently isn’t willing to leave him. I wondered what my role was here, and felt quite uncomfortable as I barely know this person.
Later, she invites me to eat with her family, and I said I preferred not to see this man actually, and that what’s more I had a headache. She pouted…and she is 25, but you’ve never seen someone pout like this! Well I got out of there, and felt quite relieved to be at my apt. alone.
Then the phone calls start…she’s called 6 or so times in the last two hours. I only answered once, and she told me that she had lied, that no one hit her. (I find this hard to believe) and that she had said this to see how I would react?! She said this while laughing. I told her I don’t appreciate being lied to , and what’s more don’t think it’s a very funny joke! I tell her I’d prefer not to speak to her tonight, so she says ,that’s your loss!
Now, she’s come to knock on my door several times, and keeps calling (after I said I didnt want to talk) so I dont answer, but now I see she has given me a plate of food on the landing of my apt. OH MY GOD. She lives in the same building as me, and she’s honestly kind of frightening me. So, now I’m back at square one in this new city. I’m actually kind of glad I have a valid reason not to hang out with her now, but I’m a bit worried that she’ll freak out and do….what? No idea, but she seems unstable.