Why do I attract these people?! Crazy story…

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Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would say something like “I would have liked for us to become friends but I can’t get past the fact that you lied to me about being hit by your husband.  I won’t be able to go forward with this relationship and I’d appreciate it if you stopped contacting me”.

It’s awkward because you might run into her but it’s best to just be blunt.

 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Wow, I do not have any advice but this reminds me of that movie SWF.  I know she’s not your roommate but if she’s in the same building as you she has access to you and when you come and go just like a roomie.  Be careful!

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@FrenchNewlyWed:  She sounds bonkers! I hope you go out and find yourself some nice normal friends soon!

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FrenchNewlyWed:  First comment, but I read your updates. The other posters are giving some great advice.

She sounds like someone I dealt with last year. You’ve put yourself in a good spot to do this next step: SILENCE. ABSOLUTE SILENCE. It’s the only way. No text responses. No answering calls. No matter what she says.

It’s so tempting to call her out on being crazy. But this interaction is what she wants. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this! She legit sounds unstable.

SILENCE. As much as you can.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Fizzy8:  I think that is the best route.  Slience and hopefully she will take the hint especially after you told her your friendship was over.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@FrenchNewlyWed:  well she has a fact to take, not a hint at least. She’ll definitely the message now! The real question is will she go away or go crazy? Hard to tell sometimes!

She could very well be a normal just slightly clingy person and she may just shed a few tears, wh she had handled things differently and stop bothering you.

Or if she’s not quite normal, you might have a shit storm on your hands. Although if she’s crazy it probably wouldn’t matter what you said!

I hope this all blows over for you! I used to be a little nicer than a person should be and got walked on and pushed around a bit (I’m not a good no sayer either) Once I  learned how to say “no” when it was neccesary, it all stops. It just takes a few times and people will learn you’re not so easy to step on! Think cool, not cold!

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yikes! It kinda sounds like she wants to wear your skin for a suit. Definitely cease communication with her. You told her what she did wrong: if she is too dumb to understand (besides a language barrier, I mean), then that is her problem.

Do not text her or respond to her again. Don’t open your door, don’t answer your phone. If you are coming home from work, and she sees you, ignore her. If she starts talking to you, tell her you don’t have time to talk, and keep walking. If she grabs your arm, tell her not to touch you. If she grabs tighter, scream.

Good luck. Just pray she doesn’t start leaving dead animals outside your door o.O

Post # 46
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Omg what a creep!

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