Post # 1
I’ve been doing so well trying to stay calm. Here I am doing research for my ering. SO and I are ready to be engaged…just need the ering to make it official. I mean, I feel so blessed to already be taking the next step with him in searching for my ering. I can’t believe we made it this far, actually I can because we love each other so much and are so excited and nervous in a good way 🙂 to get engaged.
why do I even bother with FB anymore…I literally just looked at my news feed and what do you know? One of my friends/former classmate from college posted how amazing her day was going dress shopping with her sister and mom. Right under her post was a highschool friend of mine who shared how she’s celebrating with her aunt and mom on her recent engagement which is 2 days ago. Then a few hour before another college friend of mine posted a whole album of her beautiful ering cause her fb proposed this morning. I’m so happy for them! But why am I so freaking whiny….I just need to relax and feel happy because I’m almost at that stage as well. wtf is wrong with me? I haven’t been like this in the longest.
Thanks for reading about my vent for the day…feeling frustrated and sad. 🙁
ETA: oh yeah and to boot I’m PMSing …awesome :/
Post # 3
@NYCkindaBee: FACEBOOK IS EVIL. No seriously… There Re studies showing that people who spend more time on Facebook tend to be more dissatisfied with their own lives. The issue is that your ‘friends’ only post their happiest moments so comparatively your life appears to suck. For instance your friendd who got engaged this morning isn’t posting that she and her boyfriend (now fiancée) argued for the last 3 months and she paid for half of her ering (not that there’s anything wrong with that) to get to that happy post this morning. Or your friend looking at dresses couldn’t even fit into the sample sizes until she finishes her Pre-wedding diet. I know I’m being mean about them. I’m just kidding to help cheer you up. BUT I may not be that far from the truth. Love your life. Facebook isn’t real life. Trust me, my Facebook profile is thin, always has good hair days, vacations constantly and has an adoring boyfriend who she is delaying getting engaged to because her career and friends take up most of her time.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
“There Re studies showing that people who spend more time on Facebook tend to be more dissatisfied with their own lives.”
It’s so fucking true, because I’ve let that happen to me before.
Post # 6
Oh geez.. you’re almost there! I’d understand being upset if you were in the whole “woe is me, I don’t know if he even wants to commit to me” stage, but you’re selecting a ring for goodness sake. I mean come on. A little tough love here 😉
Try to enjoy the fun of selecting the ring. You’re not wondering IF it’ll happen.. you know it’s a “when”.
Look at these photos as things that’ll be happening to you soon enough. Something to look forward to… not something to dread or get jealous over. I know, we’re only human… but I think you’re making this needlessly hard on yourself.
Post # 7
@SomedaymrsWDS: you’re so right. Thank you for your advice.
yeah, you’re right. I think I am making this too hard on myself for no reason! ;( I need to stfu and just chill out!
Post # 8
Ugg… Im right there with you! Im just absolutly hating FB right now Engagments left and right wedding photos every where. Im trying to cut down on checking it and I feel so much better and in tune with reality.
Post # 9
Just saw this, and it made me think of this thread…
Post # 10
@NYCkindaBee: I have started avoiding FB like the plague after realizing that:
my cousin was recently engaged and took my date (which I can’t complain about since I’m psycho for picking one without the engagement.. lol)
my childhood best friend: engaged last week
my very best friend: engaged on halloween
S/O and my mutual friend proposed to preggo g/f
3 friends from a diff state I lived in engaged.
ALL IN OCTOBER. FML. I can’t even go on anymore.. if one more person gets engaged I will honestly lose my shit. Not to mention I made S/O so so so angry at me today for making a snarky joke.. I felt terrible.
I’m — this close to giving you all and the bee up for awhile because I’m being so bat shit crazy about it and I think I’m ruining everything for myself.
Post # 11
@NYCkindaBee: I am not on Facebook anymore. I couldn’t stand seeing every engagement/wedding related party/pregancy annoucement/baby shower.
Don’t get me wrong-there were a few people I’d be happy for and then there would be a few that I would go ‘Wait-SHE got engaged/married/preggo before ME’ (not a proud bee here).
Anyway, I’ve been off of it for 3 years now and I have no plans to get back on it. I’M FREE! haha!
Post # 12
@ohhbitty: OH no!!!
Don’t let the hive make you crazy…it’s supposed to be a support forum honestly.
It sounds more like your fam (and I’ve read your other posts) is what’s getting to you and tainting your excitement, stealing the thunder you cannot share yet–not the HIVE, just sayin’.
Post # 13
@veryberry13: no no no, I love the bee and I couldn’t ever be grateful enough for the support and advice I have gotten on here in the last month or so since I joined.. and I would definitely be back once the proposal happens.
My thing is that I have been obsessing over the proposal and engagement etc that all I can do/think about is wedding bells and I’m afraid I am ruining it for myself. Putting so much thought into this is not only driving me crazy but I’m worried its going to make the actual ordeal lack-luster or I’m going to have a major breakdown waiting..
I’ve never had my focus on one thing like this before. I think its because this is truly the most important moment in my life yet. I’m only 23 years old. But I can’t stop obsessing and enjoying the time I have left being just a girlfriend.
(sorry for thread-jacking)
Post # 14
I totally know how you feel.
Three of my high school classmates all got married last weekend.
Then two engagement pictures showed up.
And then one person posted “happy one year engagement – can’t wait until our big day in a few months”
Needless to say, I have no boyfriend, yet I am still “waiting”.
Post # 15
@NYCkindaBee: Facebook is the absolute worst for waiting. Enough said. In the last week or so FOUR of my facebook friends announced their engagement! It is so frustrating, because most of them have been together for a significantly less time than my SO and I, and they are the same age as us! If it gets too annoying, I would block them from your news feed…just so that you can avoid turning into a Hulk-esque crazy girlfriend because you are still waiting! Haha. Sorry about that darned website, trust me…it is annoying for all of us!!
Post # 16
@blushblossom91: lmao I actually did block a few of their updates! I had to block a FB friend’s surprise baby sonogram and another friend’s ering!
and of course, thank you to all of you for your words of encouragement and advice! Seiously have no idea what I’d do without the Hive!!!!