Post # 1
My boyfriend and I plan to become engaged soon, probably within the next year. The first ring I picked out was about $2000, and it was beautiful but we’re both students so we don’t have that kind of money. I found a similar one (a sapphire with diamond accents) for a much cheaper price online and showed it to him. We were talking a couple days later and I told him that it was really important to me that he also liked the ring. He confessed that he’d rather buy me something with a ruby. His reasons why aren’t important for the rest of this question, but to make a long story short I decided to go try on some ruby rings to see if I also liked them.
After going to 6 stores without finding anything good, I decided to go back to the local, family-owned jewelry store where I found the first ring that I loved so much. I still wasn’t crazy about any of the ruby rings but I found a delicate garnet ring that I loved. I tried it on with a thin diamond band and I was so happy to find something that seemed like it would work for both of our preferences. I expected it to be fairly expensive since the first ring I liked at that store was in the thousands. I looked at the price tag and it was $140! I expected it to be sterling silver for that price but the salesperson said it was platina 4, which is a metal I’ve never heard of but I googled it and didn’t see any negative comments about it.
I left the store feeling good about finding something that is well under the budget we had in mind, but within just a short time I started feeling bad about it. I guess the jewelry industry has really taught girls that they are supposed to have a super expensive fancy diamond ring, I can’t think of any other reason why I’d feel bad about the ring being so inexpensive. I guess in a way society tells us that our man is supposed to save for months and spend a bunch of money to prove his love, and it is hard not to be influenced by that, even though I’ve never been one to care much for the rules of society.
I think this ring is about as close to perfect as I am going to find, I love small delicate rings and all of the other ruby and garnet rings I’ve seen have had big gaudy center stones. I don’t really like the traditional diamond rings, so I definitely want something with a colored gemstone. (Actually I was offered my grandmother’s bridal set, but turned it down because it was so far off from what I imagine for my own ring. I’d love to have it some day for the sentimental value but not as my wedding set.) Although I’m not usually into heart-shaped stones, I feel like this one is small enough that it isn’t super noticeable or tacky. I doubt we’d be able to afford a custom ring, and I’d prefer to get something that I could see first, so that also rules out purchasing online for the most part. (I’d do it if I had to but I am very picky about the exact shade of red I like for the stone.)
I guess I am just wondering if anybody else has had an experience like this, or how they would feel about getting such a cheap engagement ring. If it were a cheap walmart or mall jewelry store ring I could understand my reluctance. But the jewelry store it is at has a great reputation, I know several people who have jewelry from this store, and they’ve all had great things to say about it. It also has an A+ rating from the Better Business Bureau.
This is the ring I tried on, along with the diamond band that I’d probably want to purchase as my wedding band. Opinions? (Sorry for the bad quality, I took the picture with my cell phone.)
Post # 3
If you love the ring go for it! I really like the ring and I love it with the band (reminds me of the band that matches my e-ring). In all honesty, unless you don’t tell anyone the price of your ring…than who cares? 🙂 All that it’s important is that you like the ring.
Post # 4
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It’s beautiful from what I can see, and the band is perfect with it 🙂
Price is not important at all, we’re just brainwashed to think so.
Post # 5
Just make sure you are not selling yourself short with the quality of the stone. I got my ruby at http://www.gemsny.com and you can hand pick which size ruby you want in whatever setting you want. (Also emeralds and sapphires, too!)
Check it out- they are all genuine stones and it’s pretty affordable. I got mine for $600 and I couldn’t be happier.
Post # 6
Thanks to everyone for your comments! I do feel much better about it after seeing that not everybody cares about the price of the ring, and I agree that the band is stunning with it. I don’t know if I’d want to wait to have that band to wear! (And the band was only $900, plus we’ll have considerably more time to save for it since we’ll probably have a pretty long engagement.)
rubybride718, thanks for that link, I will take a look at it. Ultimately I think I prefer the deeper red of a garnet. I tried on several ruby rings at different stores but I just don’t care for the flashes of pink that I see in them. I’m afraid that a deep, blood red ruby (if such a one even exists) would be far outside my price range. The ring I am looking at has a genuine garnet and genuine diamonds, and the diamonds are so tiny that I’m not too concerned about the 4 C’s with them. I don’t know much about how they gauge the quality of garnets, anybody know about that? I don’t know if it would even be worthwhile to get such an inexpensive ring appraised, so my main concern is that it is pretty and makes me happy. 🙂
Post # 7
Have you looked at lab created rubies? Better Than Diamond makes amazing affordable pigeon blood red ones. They do sell settings but you can also buy the stone loose. The BTD message boards have women with the rubies on it. Garnet is fine of course too if you like it!
Nothing wrong with a more affordable ring – just make sure it is well made and durable. My first wedding ring was very affordable – under $500 – and very pretty!
Post # 8
I think the ring you like is very beautiful! And if you feel the same way, then you should definitely get it. It’s true that we’re brainwashed into thinking that an engagement ring should cost x-amount of dollars. Don’t buy into the marketing, get what makes you happy!
Post # 9
rosyQ87, thanks for your positive comments! I think I will ask my boyfriend to look at the ring next time he’s in town (we’re in a LDR) and see what he thinks. It’s a bit scary, we’ve looked at rings online but we’ve never gone to the jewelry store together! What’s the best way to suggest it to him?
RayKay, I personally don’t have a problem with getting a lab-created stone but when I showed my bf a couple rings with lab-created sapphires he wasn’t really into them. He said it is important that the ring he gives me has a “real” stone. If he feels strongly about it then I’d hate to go against his wishes on an issue that is so easy to resolve. The ring I am currently considering is at a jewelry store with a great reputation and of course I’d check to see what sort of warranty they offer on it. What else can I do to make sure it would be durable enough?
Post # 10
My garnet engagement ring was less than that so I definitely don’t think there’s anything wrong with the one you picked out. I really love the way light hits garnets and I ended up finding exactly what I wanted at a price both of us (both PhD students and raising a child) wanted to pay. In terms of quality, you mainly might want to verify if it’s been treated, and look at the colour and clarity.
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Post # 11
That ring is gorgeous, I love the color of the stone! I’ll definitely check with the jeweler to see what I can find out about the garnet in this particular ring. How long have you had your ring? Have you had any issues with durability? I know a garnet isn’t as hard as a diamond or a ruby, so I don’t know if it would have problems with breaking. The only ring I’m used to wearing is a simple claddagh ring so it sits right up against my finger, there’s nothing sticking out that I could smack on stuff.
Do you ever have people asking you why you chose the stone you went with? I’ve had a couple salespeople at other jewelry stores ask me if I’m picking something other than a diamond because it is my birthstone, and look at me funny when I say that my birthstone is something completely different (alexandrite).
Post # 12
that’s a very pretty ring!
Post # 13
I think your ring is lovely. I don’t have the ring yet, but my SO and I have agreed that price is only a factor as far as it fits in our budget. Our priorities were:
1. Is it beautiful to us?
2. Does it visually send the message we want to send? (We’re going for something that is obviously an egagement ring and that isn’t ostentatious but still looks classy).
It turns out we can meet both those priorities with a diamond simulant (I like Asha) for only a few hundred dollars. Whether a price is “too low” or not is irrelevant because the value of the ring to us comes from other factors.
So, if you like the ring and your SO likes it, that is truly all that matters. You’re not “settling,” you’re choosing a ring that makes you happy and fits your budget (if you chose something more expensive you would be less happy because of the strain on your budget). For others, choosing something expensive and made of traditional elements will make them happy and so they would have different priorities. Don’t feel guilty for choosing something that makes you happy! 🙂
Post # 14
The combination looks beautiful! Go for it — no one will ever guess that you were lucky enough to find something so perfect for you that didn’t push your budget!
Post # 15
The ring I want will be custom made from a jewelry store that happens to be located in a mall with a jeweller that made me feel very comfortable and respected, it will be $100-$200 depending on our final choices for materials. Getting what you love is way more important than the price, though a price you can love is great too! Leaves room for more bling later (if you want) or other big purchases for you to share in your life together. Sounds perfect to me!
Post # 16
Honestly, it’s beautiful. I would not think that you got it for such a low price. Only you have to know how much you payed for it. I think we have been brainwashed by the 3 months salary thing to think that the more money spent on the e-ring the stronger the love… but thats not true at all. Congrats for finding something so lovely on an amazing budget. I love the way it looks with the band.