(Closed) Why do I feel like 30 is too late?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Because you were brainwashed and pressured by society. Unless you have a medical reason to suspect decreased fertility, there is no reason to rush at this point. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

rumpunch712:  I hear ya OP! You are not alone in this thinking. I’m not sure why we feel this way, could be a variety of reasons. I would like to attribute mine to (possibly) all the other women in my family (mom, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, cousins & step-sister) all having married and had children before the age of 21. I’ll be 30+ when we start to have kids and will be the only female in my family to start “late” (although I am the only female in my family to have a degree – so that’s monumental). Oh, and I’m the only female in the family to deal with fertility issues (so it’s an even harder pressure I put on myself). I love having such a young family. I get to enjoy my family members for a longer period of time (& I had the opportunity to know most of my great-grandparents). I hate the thought of showing up to my kids HS graduation one day and everyone thinking that I’m their grandmother… Ugh…Guess it is what it is. Can’t dwell on it too much, although yeah. The thoughts do creep in from time to time. I might not be of much help other than to say what you’re feeling is totally normal & you’re not alone. I would just continue to talk it out until you become comfortable with where you’re at in your life stage. Best of luck 🙂

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee

Mrs.Sawyertobe:  Oh ok, that makes sense. I knew I read something about that decrease, but at the same time know so many ladies who have had babies after 30. Thanks for the clarification! My empathy goes out to the all the ladies on the board who are concerned about TTC. 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

30 is definitely not too late! its really big deal that you have made a point of providing security prior to having kids! I was 17 when i had my first and even though i had the support and drive to finish school and provide a loving, stable home, i know it would have been far less stressful had i planned first, altough i wouldnt have it any other way, there are benefits and disadvantages to having a child too “early” OR too “late” its all about what works for you!

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