(Closed) Why Do I Feel Like Everything has to be Original and Unique?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I totally hear you on this. I really struggle with this myself, although I think the pressure only comes from ourselves (like literally, myself and my internal competitive nature, and the wide world of wedding blogs).

I mean, I am totally stealing Mrs. Stripes’s Save the Date idea, as well as her mason jars for drinking with chalkboard labels. I’m also making some robbon wreaths I saw somewhere online, and really want to do the guests sign a bench idea (although I really think this was my own original thought before I saw it online). So does that make me unoriginal or just inspired by something I saw?

Even when I think I am being original…turns out I am not. I wanted a hair flower before I hit the world of wedding blogs and learned that hair flowers are totally in right now! And the guestbench idea…apparently not original.

No idea how to help, but I’m in the same spot as you. I think we need to get over it and realize that our combination of ideas will be original, and really, it’s not about the details, it’s about marrying that person we love. Although that’s easier said than done!

Post # 4
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Awww. Don’t feel that way. Weddings are weddings. It’s hard to be unique about something that occurs thousands and thousands and thousands of times over and over again πŸ™‚

 

Make it for YOU and Fiance. If you love it, that’s all that matters. Some elements will feel original and unique to others and many will not. But that’s okay!

Post # 5
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527 posts
Busy bee

I was slightly feeling pressured about this.  However, I realized that my wedding will be gorgeously original and unique because it involves me and my mister.  Sure, we’ll use ideas we’ve been inspired by through the world of wedding magazines and websites, but it will all be new to my guests because I doubt they’ve been as saturated with weddings as we have.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Each wedding is unique anyway, with all the countless combinations of dress/veil/hairdo/music/tux/vest/shoes/venues..etc its higly unlike to have two identical weddings. The only thing is people sometimes try to overthink being unique when you dont really have to. Just go for things that genuinely interest you rather than things that are expected and your wedding be an original

Post # 8
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was just Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding, and while many of the ideas I had seen before on the web, in terms of centerpieces, favors, bouquet charms, colored socks for the groom, etc, NONE of the guests had. Everyone kept commenting on all the details and how individualized it was! I do think because we are inundated with such wonderfully beautiful ideas, we start doubting our own.

But we shouldn’t because we are all awesome!!!!! WOO HOO!

Post # 9
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There is always one thing that will be unique.  You and your Fiance.  The feelings you have for each other are unlike anyone else’s in the whole world.  You are special and one-of-a-kind, and that makes your wedding unique, too Wink.

Post # 10
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379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Pablo Picasso once said “Bad artist copy.  Good artist steal.”  I love this quote.  You have to take inspiration from somewhere.  Art is meant to inspire.  I think the same can go for crafting. There will always be someone at your wedding that hasnt seen the ideas before and will think it is super cool.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I definitely felt the pressure.  There’s so many ideas out there, and it seems like every wedding is doing everything creatively, and you’re a cop out bride if you do something simply.

Case in point for me was our escort card FAIL.  I tried sawing slits in logs, I tried hanging them from willow branches, the cloth covered bulletin board, the clothes line, displayed on silver trays… nothing worked for me, and I laugh about it now but it was causing me so much stress.  Finally I just gave up, and laid them in rows on a table.  Done.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2000

From experience, I’d have to say the things that make it unique are the small details that make it memorable to your guests.  Your dress, your flowers, your vows, they’re all unique when put together by you.  Unique doesn’t have to be something like bold flowers or crazy dances, it’s something that your guest sees and says, “that’s so her” and smiles.  Congrats!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@ktbrady: Exactly!!  It’s really easy to get discouraged in the wedding world cause not much is new these days.  But, the majority of your guests don’t spend half their day thinking about weddings and researching details.  So, to them, they’ll be wowed at your creativity!! πŸ™‚

And, also, it’s all about your personal spin on things.  So what if you borrow ideas from a ton of people — those ideas you’re making uniquely YOURS and will reflect you and your Fiance on your wedding day.  Don’t worry — everything will be original and unique because it’s your wedding!! πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think we gave up worrying about being unique when we realized that the blessing over bread was going to be given by the ex-husband of one of the brides.  πŸ˜‰

Seriously, my reaction is that we invited only people who cared about our happiness and wanted to celebrate with us.  And for those people, the fact that it was us, not some other couple, was uniqueness enough.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Okay so I want to start off by saying I love Weddingbee and spending time on this site is my ‘job’. But I think the more time you spend on WB and sites like it, the more you feel like you need or want to do more to make your wedding more unique. All the girls on this site have such amazing ideas it’s so hard not to want something amazing at your wedding also. I also feel like a wedding to most girls is a huge reflection of them and they want everyone to see that.

Every wedding is different no matter what. The people, the place, nothing is the same. So being unique just comes with it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m so glad I’m not alone in this thinking. I’m literally driving myself crazy trying to make each detail something unique and special to Fiance and I. It doesn’t help that I’m a third time bride and I do not want to do things I’ve done in my previous weddings. Fiance always tells me that if I’m there the wedding will be perfect but we type-A brides know better πŸ™‚

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