(Closed) Why do I feel like no one is taking this seriously?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

It definitely wears off pretty quickly.  People continue on with regular life and that definitely can take a toll on everyone.  

I’m sorry you’re feeling sad during this exciting time.  It really means the most to you and your Fiance though.  It’ll create a stronger bond between you two.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Honestly, it’s hard to get super excited over something that’s a few years away unless it’s your own wedding. To most people their lives are chugging along and it’s still more of an abstract idea than an actual source of constant excitement. Once the date is closer and the dress is being purchased and the invitations are sent out it will be much more tangible. You just can’t really expect people to get swept up in the excitement in the same way you are, they won’t get it and that’s just the way it is.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@CarolinaCola: No problem at all.  I noticed the same when I was first engaged.  Everyone was like “omg yay it’s going to be so awesome!” to not even giving a care.  Does it bother me?  No, not really.  FI and I talk all the time about things we’re most excited about.

I’m glad he’s receptive to your ideas! Just don’t wear him out too quickly. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I understand- I’ve been feeling the same way, and it’s very frustrating.  FI and I have been living together for years, we’re engaged and have the ring, and have booked our venue and photographer, but it still feels like some of my family hasn’t accepted that it’s going to happen.  Just last week I was talking to my dad about where we’re going to move, and he said “I don’t know why you’re concerned about being close to his work- you never know what’s going to happen, and you should look out for yourself.”  

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@CarolinaCola: If your mother is anything like mine, she is probably hoping you’ll enjoy some time being engaged first before planning a wedding. It’s just what moms do.

Post # 12
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@CarolinaCola: No kidding.  Hahaha.  You’ll gain a lot from here!

Post # 13
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11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Perhaps once you and your Fiance have set a date for the wedding, some of these individuals may begin taking your engagement more seriously than they have thus far. In the interim, I hope you are able to enjoy your new planning binder. Putting together a wedding binder was one of the first things I did, too! Smile

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’ll pick up the closer to your date. I think such a long engagement to people on the outside is just like dating more.

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