Post # 1
I am not your traditional bride. So why should I have a traditional wedding?
As some already know i am having a beach ceremony.
Why do I have to have a “beach wedding dress”?
Why do people think it it so strange to have a ball gown or lace gown on the beach? I’ve seenit done before and I think it’s beautfull. I know on here it’s just everyone’s personal opinion and i greatly appreciate them.
And why do I have to have a beach theme wedding just because I am getting married on the beach? This is crazyness, I say.
And why can’t I use midnight blue in my color scheme? Maybe people aren’t seeing my vision, maybe once I start actually putting things together they will understand.
But what can I do know to get people to understand the style of wedding I want? This is tough being a non-traditional bride. I’m almost to the point to just give in and just do everything completely traditional so everyone wil understand and be more a part of the process
Post # 3
Why do you feel you have to justify your choices to anyone else?
Have the wedding you want.
Post # 4
@julies1949: my thoughts exactly
Post # 5
@julies1949: Well, everyone really wants to help with some part of the wedding. Evertime i try to tell them what I am wanting, they don’t understand.
How do I have people help or be in charge of something if they don’t have the same vision that I do?
Post # 6
Is it that they don’t agree or that they cannot envision what you mean?
Post # 7
Know what you mean, I’m in the same shoes sortof. This might mean you have to do more yourself. Honestly I had more fun wedding planning before I involved anyone for this same reason. Anyway, you SHOULD NOT change your theme or colors or anything. It’s not their wedding!! It’s yours!! If they want to help and then end up bitching and moaning about what you want then you can nicely but ever so pointedly say “I’m really flattered and glad you want to help. I know my ideas sound different to you, and when you say things like ______ or question my ideas in this way it makes me feel like crap and it slowly zaps the fun out of all of this for me. I know that’s not what you’re intending to do. So for now on if you want to help can you please just tell me what a great idea it is and do as I’m I’m asking? that would feel a lot more supportive and less negative.”
Post # 8
You can do whatever you want. Just ignore anyone who says otherwise.
Post # 9
Do what you want! Oddly enough, I (a very traditional bride) think that your wedding plans sound amazing so far! I think it is awesome when people wear a ball gown type dress on the beach because it makes such a dramatic effect! I also think a dark blue would be a great color. You go with what you want! It sounds like you have great taste and this is your day 🙂
Post # 10
If you haven’t already, you might want to make an inspiration board to show people. That might bring all your ideas together in a more easy to understand way than just explaining.
Post # 11
Welll…what is making you so non-traditional? The dress and color scheme can’t be all there is to it, so what are you wanting that’s so different that people can’t grasp the concept?
Post # 12
@SandAndSea: why do you feel pressured to do any of these things? you do whatever you feel will make your day special and dont let anyone tell you otherwise
Post # 13
You have a vision for your wedding. Keep it. Make it a reality. Let the nay-sayers be amazed at the beauty of it all, when they see all of your ideas come together to create one wonderful wedding.
Here’s to all non-traditional brides!
(And, by the way, a ballgown on the beach is just brilliant! Love it. As well as incorporating midnight blue, bringing some sophistication to the beach scene. You go.)
Post # 14
If people want to help and you want to accept their help, especially of it involves any sort of DIY, do a sample for them to reproduce exactly.
Otherwise, explain to them that what would be really helpful is if they can be part of your vision and just do what you ask. If they can’t do that, then gratefully thank them for their offer but you have already decided what you want.
Post # 15
Thank you bees, You all reassured me of everything i was already thinking. I just needed other people’s opinions as well.
To those of you who asked why It’s so untraditional, it’s really just a few things:
I want either a lace or a ball gown on the beach. Some people think I’m ridiculous, but I don’t care anymore, I love it! the colors aren’t bright and tropical like people are expecting. And I don’t want to use tropical flowers. I don’t want typical wedding food, my fh loves mexican food so we want a taco lady! I don’t want my wedding to feel like a full blown wedding, I really want it to feel like a big family party. i want it to be not only about us but about our two families coming together. I’m getting tons of grief cause I don’t want to do favors. I want only 2 long family style tables. No sweetheart or bridal party tables. I want my flowers to look like picked wildflowers. I want to do a scrapbook instead of a guestbook and the invitations to look like old hand-written love letters. My family and friends just think a wedding should be “by the book” and “the usual”, but I don’t. I just want them to understand that.
I appreciate everyone’s input, you all really helped. i think I will make an inspiration board for everyone to see, thanks angela85 for that idea!
Post # 16
I am having a beach wedding too. I think your ideas sound amazing, and I’m thinking of stealing some of your ideas!!! I especially like the dark blue idea! I think its really important to stick with what you want since its your day.
We have refused money from various family members who think that by contributing they get to have a say in how our day is planned or who we invite. I am sticking to my guns! Good luck!