(Closed) Why do I have to go into massive debt for our wedding?? It’s 1 day!

posted 8 years ago in Chicago
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m not from the area so I can’t really comment on a location.

I wanted to have a cocktail style reception (aka hors d’eouvres) and it was more expensive that having a sit-down dinner.  Basically more staff are needed, people still eat as much as if they were having dinner, hors d’eouvres are more expensive to make than traditional sit-down food etc.  I have seen other people comment about this same issue (although it never hurts to compare prices for both at whatever venue you are looking at).  I have heard that dessert receptions can be less expensive that a sit-down dinner, but you typically need the have the reception in the afternoon or later in the evening (after 8pm probably).  Just something to consider. Smile 

Hopefully you can find a venue that is willing to work with you! 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Look into park districts, etc. June is nice enough out that you shouldn’t have to worry about your guests being too cold. There aren’t many affordable indoor venues around here. Even FSIL’s budget wedding for 150 people ended up being $25,000 all said and done – and she really didn’t want to pay for much. It’s frustrating! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m not familiar with that area, but are you saying that you can’t find a place without a 7500 food and drink minimum, or that you want a total wedding budget of 7500?  What types of places have you looked so far?  We’re having our reception in a restaurant with a private room and we’re paying $30 a person plus tax, which would fit if you wanted to keep the venue cost under $4000.  All the restaurants we looked at were that way.  We’re still having a full dinner, cake, dj, dancing, and all the traditional wedding stuff, it’s not just a dinner.  Would something like that work for you?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

i can honestly tell you i feel the same way you do, so i started looking into budget friendly weddings. we decided it to do it in our inlaws back yard. you can look doing your wedding more casual, using a park, a farm or a family property. this website helped me a lot http://2000dollarwedding.com/… good luck

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Also, I just googled a map of your area and it looks like you’re on the edge of the Chicago sprawl- would you be willing to drive a little further out from Chicago?  I know people don’t like to drive, but if you were willing to move both the ceremony and reception an hour or so further away from the city you could probably save thousands of dollars.  As long as both the ceremony and reception are in the same town people probably won’t mind as much as if they had a long drive between the two, you know?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i totally know how you feel. when we started this whole process our budget was $10,000 but neither one of us wanted to have an outdoor wedding at a park or something for cheaper because it could by rainy in the beginning of May, so we needed to do an indoor reception hall. now when all has been said and done two months before the wedding, our budget is around $20,000. i think the hardest part through it all has been explaining to our parents that we are not just spending the money on extravagences and that i’ve been trying extremely hard to do everything budget friendly. everyone is usually shocked by the price of weddings, but since our parents chose to invite so many people there has really been nothing we could do to prevent it :/

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know venues seem really expensive, but think about what it must take to own and maintain a place like this. (1) cost of purchase / mortgage interest, (2) cost of electricity, (3) cost of staff (cleaning, upkeep, publicity, coordinator), (4) other costs such as tables, chairs, linens, sound system.

Furthermore, sites aren’t used every day so costs are only recouped around 100 full cost days / year (assuming some full price weekend days in summer and a fair number of half price weekdays / off season). Restaurants are often cheaper because they do get used every day so costs are more spread out. Our rehearsal dinner is 1k for a Saturday night – we could have had the whole restaurant for maybe 3x that and that would have included food (though not service). Many restuarants will close for private parties.

I think it’s wrong to complain the wedding industry is trying to rip you off for attempting to cover their costs and make a reasonable profit. I know there are a lot of jokes about the costs doubling when you mention weddings, but we have never observed this with our vendors, though I’m sure there are some unethical types out there.

I would recommend looking around for publicly owned spaces like community centers or historic homes or theaters (our local public performance hall has public room spaces that are really nice).

This place looks affordable: http://www.danadahouse.com/house.htm and that’s one awesome atrium

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2001

Try getting a nice banquet room at a local restaurant where you LOVE the food to begin with.

We had ours in Addison at an Italian restaurant 10 am Saturday wedding, 12- 4:30 pm Lunch reception and then off to Ohare to Vegas for Honeymoon. one thing to save a thousand at least is cash bar, plus you won’t have the guilt of paying for the irresponsibility of the drunk drivers on your tab.  It was like $2500 for 70 people.

Good luck

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