(Closed) Why do I have to justify it?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe she was just trying to make conversation? Personally I’m awkward when I first meet people, so that might be something I would say. Did she sound mean or was she just asking a question?

Post # 4
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just use a default: “The venue we wanted was booked and August 2012 is the soonest we could do it.” and then smile. 

Post # 5
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe she was so excited about getting married she can’t understand why others would have a longer engagement.  Whatever the reasons, they are between you and your Fiance.  I agree with what Miss Tattoo suggested as your pat answer. 

Post # 6
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The answer to your post title is “You don’t”.

I always remember what Dear Abby suggested to answer questions people should not have asked:

“Why would you ask such a question?”


Post # 7
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“Because we want to.”

End of story. I get this a lot too and I am tired of justifying it. So I don’t anymore. 🙂

Post # 9
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just say something like, “Oh, a number of reasons – vendor availability, finances, trying to make it possible for as many friends and family to attend as we can, etc.” I don’t think she meant any malice. But if her engagement wasn’t all that long, she probably doesn’t realize how often you get that question. Trust me, though – everyone has that one question that people Just. Won’t. Stop. Asking. Based on my wedding date, I’m sure you can figure out what mine was. Just figure out a canned response and give it every single time. You’ll get really good at it 🙂

Post # 10
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, I would just go with an answer like “that’s what worked for us and our families”, and leave it at that if I didn’t feel like going into a major explanation.

She was probably just trying to make conversation though.

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