Why do I keep dreaming about my ex???

posted 5 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Sandusky, Ohio

That’s funny because I felt like I was the only one having dreams about a guy I used to like! We didn’t even date. I am 28 and crushed hard on him in 8th grade. He asked me out, we went out once then separated after we graduated, went to different high schools, etc. Met up with him again through mutual friends in college, talked a little bit, flirted, went NO WHERE, then he fell off the map again. I am able to see what he’s up to now thanks to Facebook. He is engaged to a beautiful girl and I have been happily married for 7 months now. But I find myself having these crazy vivid dreams with him in it. In one of the dreams we even kissed and I felt so guilty and sad & immediately regretted it and I remember thinking in my dream “I love my husband! Why did I do this?! I don’t even want to be with *boy’s name*” In other dreams we are hugging or flirting or just hanging out but really close. 

I can assure you- I do LOVE my husband and I don’t want anything romantic to do with what’s his name but I do think the dreams come from a could have/maybe would have thing and my brain wondering what if since we did fizzle out without ever really giving “us” a shot. He was the first guy I ever had puppy love for and idk if that ever really goes away?

ETA: I didn’t date much at all in high school, met my husband my senior year and ended up marrying him 11 years later ❤ I don’t have any exes so this was the closest thing to love I’ve had other than my DH.

Post # 3
11890 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

KKML125 :  I have random dreams about exes – mostly the flings – and crushes every now and then. I’ve given up trying to figure out why they happen. They were frequent before I got married and mostly seemed to be themed around letting go and saying goodbye – it was weird.

They’ll pop up every now and then still. I also had a dream about a co-worker the other day. The dream was romantic/sexual in nature & this is someone that I am in no way attracted to, not even a little bit. Dreams are weird. I’ve given up trying to figure out what they mean.

Love my husband. Don’t want to go anywere. Only want to be with him. But dreams are dreams. I assume he has dreams that involve other women as well but I don’t ask 

Post # 4
2986 posts
Sugar bee

I wouldn’t worry bee. I have some FUCKED UP dreams sometimes…things I wouldn’t tell a soul IRL lol, but I don’t really think they mean anything. 

Post # 5
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I had about three or four consecutive dreams within two weeks or so about all of my exes around the time I got engaged. Each dream would revolve around one ex and crazy stuff happening. It was super weird and I felt weird dreaming about people I hadn’t given much thought to recently. 

I looked into it and apparently, it’s your subconscious’ way of “letting go” of your exes and moving forward. 

Post # 7
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

KKML125 :  haha good question! I still dream about my exes even though it’s been quite a few years. Sometimes I feel like the brain is trying to dump old info to make room for the new too.

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