(Closed) Why do I never crave sex?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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peachykeen844:  Just read your second post and I think you just identified the problem. Maybe start aiming for less sex? Here’s some great advice I heard the other day: If it works, keep doing it. If it doesn’t work, do something else. I feel like that might apply well in your situation. Maybe if he played hard to get that would change things, for example. Be creative. What could you do different?

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Sex once a day seriously sounds awful.  I have a low sex drive as well, which I contribute mostly to not having much free time at home and wanting to do other stuff when I finally do.  However, my issue and your issue are entirely different.  I’d go insane if I were expected to have sex once a day.  It just wouldn’t happen.

Post # 33
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Helper bee

Me and Phil have sex daily but we both equally want to and I’m pregnant so my sex drive is through the roof.

HOWEVER, when I have been in previous relationships I had a very low sex drive, around once a month also, as sex felt like a chore to me too.

So I’m a firm believer that it all depends on how your hormones are. Is there any natural herbal remadies you could take to boost your lady desires ? xx

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

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luot:  Okay, you were masterbating since you were like, 4 years old? Wow. I never heard of this.  How did you even know how or what to do at that age? Were you exposed to anything sexually prior?

Sorry but the thought is just super scary to me since I now have kids about that age!

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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AOriver:  I would love to hear the advice you got from the counselor about finding a happy ground between sex – I too want it more than my FH but not daily. I’d like it twice a week.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

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LilRhodyGem:  I PM’d you 🙂

Post # 38
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Blushing bee

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Butterfly6:  No I was never exposed to anythjng sexual. I just remember figured out that it felt good to rub that area so I literally became addicted to doing it! Apparently it isn’t that uncommon for kids to masturbate.

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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peachykeen844:  To be quite honest, it sounds as though you’re sexually incompatible. He wants it at least once a day and will supplement what he’s not getting with masturbation.. You can barely keep up with his needs. I would definitely, as a precaution, discuss this with your doctor but, I think the problem is deeper than you not feeling like sex. You can’t even get a hug out him, that’s a problem bigger than not having sex every day.

luot:  Its not uncommon. Its normal behavior for kids of that age to realize that they can get pleasure from that. Sure they’re not running around telling people their masturbating but they’re getting pleasure at the hands of themselves. I don’t think the understanding of masturbation comes until later.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It could be something called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) or Distressing low sexual desire. 1 in every 10 american women suffer from this disorder. There is actually not a lot medically that deals with womens sexual dysfunction in whatever form. There are however lots and lots known for mens sexual disfunction. Nothing to be embarassed about but it is something you should talk to your OBGYN about.

If you want you I would suggest looking up “Even the Score” website and sign the petition requesting the FDA to finally approve medication for women, there are currently 26 drugs approved for men and none for women. <br />

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only thing I want daily that I can have daily and not get sick of is chocolate. ANYTHING else would get old after a while.

Theres definitely a line between your needing to meet his needs, and him abusing that power with unreasonable “needs”. And why does his need for daily sex trump your need for emotional and pyshical intimacy outside of the bedroom? It most definitely shouldnt. He has time to have sex with you AND to wank his wiener daily, but doesnt have time to give you a hug? No wonder you’re not feeling it, I dont think many women would.

I think a trip to a sex therapist before the wedding is a necessity. You need to find a middle ground that you’re BOTH happy with if you want this marriage to last, otherwise resentment will build for both of you. I truly dont think what you have and what he wants right now is sustainable long term.

And please dont feel bad. He’d be hard pressed to find a woman who could keep up with that schedule for ever, much less when kids come in to the picture. You have been a lot more patient than I would have been!

Post # 42
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Worker bee

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peachykeen844:  Honestly, I was excited when I read this post because this is happening to us right now too.  There are times that I feel like something is wrong with me, but then other times I know that there is not.  If you are extremely concerned about it, go talk to your OB, if not, play it out and see how it goes. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve heard of great things about MACA ROOT. It’s an herbal supplement that is supposed to help kick start your sex drive. 

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