Post # 1
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Busy bee
Vent ahead. We just came back from a beef and beer. I didn’t drink so my boyfriend could, which is a good thing because there would probably be drunk tears right now. I had beer spilled down my back and as I stood in front of a heater (it was outside) to dry off, right next to me is a recently engaged girl showing off her ring to a circle of people. I wanted to just cry. My boyfriend saw but he was drunk so it probably didn’t even register. Then we had a fight on the way home about how he refers to the house we live in as “his” instead of ours despite me living there for a year now. Yeah.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Ugh, I’m sorry. I’m having a sucky evening too.
Maybe he just refers to the house as “his” out of habit? Depends how long he lived there before you moved in; sometimes my SO does the same thing even though I have lived with him for 2 years. I try not to let it get to me; in our case, I can rationalize that he built it (and lived there alone for several years before I met him), so he can say “his” occasionally if he wants to. But I still don’t like it.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
@Creiddylad:
Sorry your night isn’t going so well either 🙁 he lived here 3 years before I moved in – and during those three years, he shared it with his ex. That makes it hard too. He says he just says it out of habit and considers it our house. But he said if we buy a house together in the future he’ll probably do the same thing because “the terms are interchangeable.” He does catch himself about half the time and corrects it to “ours” but like you said, it hurts.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@newcitylights: I’m sorry you’re upset. [hugs] Try to focus on something positive, like the fact you live with your SO. A lot of bees don’t do that and some have long distance relationships, others haven’t even moved in with them yet so be happy you at least have that. I know it’s not easy when things like this get you down but the day will come when you’ll be that girl showing off her e-ring to everyone within eyesight. Cheer up, and feel free to vent here whenever you need to.
Post # 6
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Honey bee
I noticed it too. Before I got engaged, everyone around me was getting engaged and now that I’m engaged I notice how people that got engaged after me are getting married before me.
As far as him refering to it as “his” house, he’s probably used to it since he’s lived there a while. I know that it sucks hearing it since you live together. I still refer to the house that FH and I share as my house but I usually correct myself.
Try to chin up 🙂
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Just one thing to remember as for the “my house” vs “our house”.
I still live with my parents, so the house certainly isn’t mine, but I still say “my house”. I would think that it would be a very hard habit to break.
As long as he doesn’t get cranky when you correct him then I wouldn’t think of it as a major issue. Though I can see how it could be upsetting at times.
*hugs* Your time will come and you’ll be that girl showing off her ring at the resturant.
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