Post # 1
Yesterday I stayed home sick. Today, my boss asks me if I’m doing better. I told her that I felt better, but that my stomach was still iffy, which is true. As I’m walking out the door, she asks loudly: You’re not pregnant, are you?
To which I froze, and could only answer… mmm maybe?
I was not ready to tell her as I am only 6 weeks along and in talks of a promotion… Now she knows and I don’t know what to do.
How inappropriate was that!! AND, how come it was only when I was back at my desk that I could think of all the good answers I could have given her?
Post # 3
haha i do that too! i always feel like george from seinfeld in the “jerk store” episode. i get that worked up about it, too. sorry this happened!
Post # 4
That’s crazy of her! Oh man! But, I would have done the same thing. And maybe doesn’t definitely mean definitely, so don’t worry. She couldn’t read your thoughts. Maybe you were just realizing, ut oh! maybe! but that doesn’t mean you are. Don’t stress it, it’s over, and there’s nothing you can do. But do know that you aren’t alone- I do this all the time, especially with things I could have said when people were rude to me!! (I’m so bad at being rude back in the moment).
Post # 5
@EleanorRigby:That’s what I was thinking too!! (Sienfeld)
OP: I’m sorry, that stinks! But I’m sure she was just joking when she said it.
Post # 6
I’m the same way! I always freeze in the moment and then think of a great come back later! Uggg!
Maybe your boss will just think that you were joking around or something!!!
Post # 7
Oh, I can totally relate to this! As as I was on my way out the door to my first doctor appointment after I found out I was pregnant (barely five weeks along), my boss jokingly asked, “What, are you having a baby?” I just laughed it off but totally FROZE, the same as you! Later that day, he apologized for what he had said and I told him, “You’re going to feel really bad when I tell you about this terminal cancer I have!” So I did get in one good comeback but jeez! Who says stuff like that??
By The Way, when I did announce my pregnancy, my boss said he really had no idea, he was just joking. I think a female boss might be a little more in tune to a potentially pregnant employee, but I would just proceed as if you’re not, and make the announcement when you feel comfortable.
Post # 8
I’m guessing your boss would take that as a joke
Post # 9
@mommytobee: I do that too and it’s really annoying sometimes.
Post # 10
@mommytobee- Was she maybe joking? I know my boss asked me that a few weeks ago after being sick with a cold and I knew she was joking (I’m not pg, I was just sick) and we have the type of relationship where I wasn’t offended at all. If you don’t have that type of relationship then I would be peeved.
Post # 11
We were on our way to a luncheon with a bunch of female co-workers and my boss (who is also a woman) was talking about how she had to tell her first boss that she was pregnant a month after starting and then she (jokingly) said “Don’t get any ideas!” to me.
A month later I was pregnant.
Post # 12
Whenever I get sick, I get accused of being pregnant by my friends and family and also my boss. I had the flu a few months ago and she outright asked if I was pregnant. I didn’t mind, but she immediatley felt embarrased for asking me, I think the words just flew out before she could censor.
Post # 13
That is way innapropriate!!! Aside from that I always think of come backs to late.. I think in your case you were just a little shocked at the comment.. I mean how rude.