(Closed) Why do people always ask what's the carat?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Your ring is beautiful!  Those people are rude.  

Post # 4
1388 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

your ring is gorgeous!

Post # 5
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

First of all welcome and congrats on ur engagement…

Really alot of ppl dont know the 4 C’s they only know that there is a carat weight and that is what they ask. I dont think u should take it personal. Some ppl just dont know….



Post # 6
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

They ask because they lack class.

Post # 7
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I allways kind of thought of it like guys and thier uhm… *ehem* penis size. Its what it allways reminded me of anyway xD but its allays seems to be a competition. If its not carat size then it clarity. if one is say tiffany then the other is more sentimental because its from her Fiance granmother when she smuggled it through the concentration camps. If one has a diamond then another has a greener gem thats better for the enviroment. All you can do is not play the game if you dont want to. as long as your doing it for you and still keeping an eye on the enviroment and the next seven generations.

i mean if everyone was stable and sure in thier decision then there would be no competition since everyone would be extacic about thier own ring ^-^

(hope i didnt offend anyone)

Post # 8
817 posts
Busy bee

Well I will be honest … I ask about carat size … only to family and people i know very well. I would NEVER ask just anyone. With that being said, though, I am only curious to compare finger sizes and with the carat because im on the lookout for my ERING! My goal isn’t mean to be tasteless. I have size 8.5 fingers and what may look good on some people who have smaller fingers i worry will look like specs on mine. BUT i only ask family or close friends who know me and would definitely not think i was being rude. 

Post # 9
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

They’re just being rude and nosy.  I would refuse to answer the question if it were me.

Post # 10
1845 posts
Buzzing bee

@gelamac:  I agree. They probably just don’t know what else to ask. it looks beautiful.

Post # 11
2223 posts
Buzzing bee

Like a PP pointed out, a lot of people aren’t terribly familiar with the 4Cs. Typically the most obvious features to someone else would be the shape and size of the stone. You can tell them it’s a SI1 or a VS1 or a DEF instead of a J but without a comparison diamond and a scope they literally aren’t going to be able to visualize what that difference looks like. With a cursory glance by a typical untrained person, they ALL look the same. So they don’t really care what the quality is. And yes, some people are straight up rude/jealous/(insert negative adjective) and that’s why they ask. But others are genuinely curious because…well, they’re genuinely curious. My sister has a .3ct round brilliant solitaire. I asked her what size it was. Why? Well, it’s not because I’m a giant jealous asshole. Her stone looked HUGE in her photo and I am PASSIONATE about stones. I spend every waking moment on here, pricescope, diamondbistro, wherever there are stones, I’m there. I want to know everything about them. Literally. Everything. 

The point is that your stone looks amazing and your finger isn’t chubby. .5ct or 50ct, people are gonna ask. It’s life. Some people ask because they’re rude, some will ask because they think that’s what they’re supposed to ask, and others (like me) are genuinely curious and love diamonds and are NOT giant assholes. You can tell them whatever you feel comfortable with but don’t worry yourself about why they’re asking. There aren’t too many good ways to really know their motives.

Post # 12
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Good question! People aren’t bombarded with the idea of better cut, clarity and color. We are bombarded with bigger!!! and so of course size is on our mind and we need to know.

I find it hard enough to ask people on WB the size of their rings (in fact I don’t know if I honestly have or not…can’t remember) so I find beyond obnoxious that someone would ask in person, and yet they do. I get it all the time.

Your ring is lovely and I really like the design. 🙂

Post # 13
44 posts

EffieTrinket : EXACTLY!!!! They think size is all what matters and the bigger, the more expensive they assume. In Europe, diamonds are better quality and therefor much more expensive. Most ladies have a small diamond but an excellent color, cut and clearity.

Post # 14
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@EffieTrinket:  this. i have never asked someone their diamond size. 

Post # 15
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@swizzle:  Me either. It’s one thing if it’s your mom or your best friend asking, but not strangers. To me, it’s every bit as rude/invasive as asking a woman how much she weighs.

Post # 16
4173 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Honestly?  People ask because there is NOTHING else to ask about when someone comse in showing off their new ring without being completely nosey or weird or just saying, “So…getting married huh?” 

Seriously, there’s nothing to say, other than congratulations, and when a woman shows me her hand, it’s the first thing I ask, because I know they know AND they all love to talk about it…its my way of being interested and excited with them, judgement has no party to it at all.

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