(Closed) Why do people always ask what's the carat?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

Devil’s advocate: would you ladies feel just as offended if someone asked about your other Cs? Because we all know that a higher quality ring is obviously more expensive so if suddenly, tomorrow, the big thing was clarity, or cut, or color and you were bombarded with that question would you consider it just as rude as the carat question? That being said, I genuinely don’t understand why that is so rude for some but for others it is an innocent question (excluding situations where the asker is obviously a total ass). Hell, there are entire websites dedicated to chatting about those details. If I bought a new car and someone asked about the make and model (which indicate the amount of money that was spent) I wouldn’t feel offended. I suppose I just don’t understand why it’s so incredibly touchy. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your ring is beautful, dont let other peoples questions bother you, they’re rude

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have the same problem! Your ring is stunning, people are just rude and materialistic

Just tell them you dont know and don’t care 🙂

Post # 20
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Busy bee

They’re asking because they think of expensive jewelry as status symbols and they’re sizing YOU and your relationship up. If it’s bigger, he loves you WAYYYY more, dontcha know.

They’re rude. I’d just say I don’t know, Fiance picked it out.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well your ring is gorgeous!  I’ve never asked anyone what the carat weight is of their stone…it makes me uncomfortable.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I attribute it to nosiness. I think it is BEYOND rude to ask. Your ring is super pretty!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Those people are C*nts. Your ring is fab.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t actually find this offensive, but then again, I’ve only been asked by my close friends, and it’s definitely more out of genuine curiosity than any sort of judgemental-ness.  Maybe I’d be more offended if someone I wasn’t super close to asked, but I haven’t experienced that yet.

I think that most people just don’t know very much about diamonds (I certainly didn’t before my fiance explained everything he learned in the diamond-buying process), so they don’t know what else to ask.  

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I get asked all the time and could NOT care less. Don’t know why everyone has to be so sensitive about everything. If you Love it and are proud then what’s it matter that someone asks, regardless of their reasoning? Never have and never will understand d the issue with asking. I guess I’m rude, jealous, a c word, etc as everyone has stated above (even though I’m definitely NOT) 

 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

Not sure why except maybe curiosity or they are trying to get a feel for what they would want later *shrugs*. But I did know one person that would ask because she really did feel like she had to have the biggest diamond in her circle. And so she upgraded like 4 times within 2 years.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

only one person asked, and it was my mother. nobody else could nor should give a shit lol and I would say the same thing to you. Brush it off.

People just don’t realize what is rude these days. All those RSVP threads about people adding numbers to their invites and stuff. Seriously, this carat thing is only the beginning!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@cherrizdream:  I sometimes ask people what carat size their ring is, but only if I know they won’t take it the wrong way. A coworker has a 1.25 carat ring, I think it’s absolutely beautiful and I’ve asked the specs before. She would also send me lots of ring pics when she spent the months picking it out. I’ll always preface with “if you don’t mind me asking…” and throw a compliment in there as well.

I don’t do it to be rude at all.. on the contrary, I’ve always loved diamonds and jewelry in general, and I could discuss diamond specs all day!

Yeah I suppose if you have a smaller sized stone and people have a bitchy tone and ask what carat the stone is, then that would send up red flags.

Just know that not everyone is being bitchy.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Your ring is stunning!

I got asked pretty often from very rude co workers and vendors who come in and I need to sign for the delivery. But it always catches me by complete shock whenever someone would ask and I would just mumble umm..it’s umm..it’s…a ..umm..good size. Of course there are those who really have no manners and would continue to press the issue, but I would continue to mumble. LOL. Just don’t think too much about it. I take it as a compliment that my ring is something people seem to notice 😀

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

what a beautiful ring! It looks fantastic on your hand
I’ve never asked anyone in person what carat there ring is but I love when you ladies share that information here, I just love diamonds!

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