(Closed) Why do people always ask what's the carat?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, people really actually ask that?  I would just say, “you know, I have no clue but isn’t it gorgeous” which it is.  

No one has ever asked me anything about my ring.  Not even the infamous “is it real” question.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My grandmother asked me if “all those diamonds” are real. Um, yes, but so what? I’ve never asked anyone how big their diamond is or if it’s real. Why do I care? If anyone is rude enough to ask I give them a very detailed, Well, the middle diamond is .77, and the diamonds surrounding that equal .5. The diamonds in the e ring band equal this, and the diamonds in the wedding band equal this. I don’t even know if those sizes are accurate, I just start spouting off make believe stuff.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I love your ring OP!

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

People ask me nonstop what the carat is. I used to avoid the question, but now I answer honestly. Questions like that make me squirm so if I answer evasively it makes me look like I’m embarassed about my ring (instead of their question just being rudE).

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Beautiful ring, congratulations!

I think it’s because most people only know about the carat size (at least they know it better than the other components of the 4 C’s), which is why they ask about it. They might find it easier to look at the size than colour, or the cut, etc as they are more familiar with that aspect than the others. 

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper

….because they’re ignorant about diamonds and carat is the only thing they know? Anyway, it’s generally rude to ask a bride the details about her stone size and/or quality.

 

By the way your ring is certaintly not too small! It’s beautiful.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

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@GelaMac:  I agree with this also. Rock your ring with pride. Very pretty. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it is bcause people can kinda understand the size of something, but not the color or the quality of it…that is a little more confusing and the cut you can tell by looking at it.  It also could just be a topic of conversation…a simple question of sorts.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

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@cherrizdream:  I know! And she did that with EVERYTHING! She would even ask what the square footage of everyones house was and as soon as someone had a bigger house….they were suddenly moving into a bigger one. Talk about rediculous!

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People might ask about size because it is more easily seen and understood. I have never asked anyone about   the size of their ring but I have been asked and I think it was out of curiosity – not nosiness, not bitchiness, not rudeness, not c*ntiness. 

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar…..

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sometimes I wish I could “iike” other posts on WB. They ask because they lack class and tact. 

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t find the question offensive, unless the questioner was particularly snarky by tone. At the same time, I wouldn’t feel so comfortable asking it of someone I don’t know very well.

Post # 45
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Helper bee

I would take it as a good sign – I only ask follow-up questions like that if I like something (where did you buy it? how high is that heel? what fabris is it made of? what model is that? etc) so I have a better reference point when looking for something similar in the future. That being said, carats aren’t the greatest reference point since a different cut changes how much faces up by a lot. but if someone’s looking for something similar to yours, it might be helpful to know that 0.5 carats looks great, so start your search from .4-.6. I don’t usually ask about diamonds, but when I was looking for earrings more my mom, I went through a phase where I asked people how big their pieces – the ones that I liked – were and through that discovered that I like ruby earrings for her @5mm. Different I guess since rubies are measured straight across, instead of by weight, but I never asked for any judgmental reason. For what it’s worth, all jewelry (or most anyway – there’s some really outlandish stuff out there) is beautiful; it’s just whether or not it’s to your taste. There’s a lot of styles and pieces I LOVE on others that I hate on myself. Take your average jewelery store, and there will be *maybe* 2-3 pieces I love. The rest is just not “me” enough to consider splurging.

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