(Closed) Why do people always assume something that they have no idea about?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s so dumb, don’t let it get to you. Some people just have no tact.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Aww Im sorry your feeling like this. Some people just stick their big noses where it doesnt belong. People should never assume. But at the end of the day, I am happy that you are in love with your ring and your Fiance πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

It’s the same way people assume that those with moissanite got it just because they couldn’t afford diamond and only tell themselves moissy is just as good (if not better) to make themselves feel better about not having the “real thing”. I have a moissanite ring and my Fiance and I own a business together make very good salaries. We could have easily afforded the $30k Tiffany equivelent of my ring, we’re just smart with our money and don’t see the point of spending that much money when you can get virtually the exact same thing for a lot less. We used the money we saved to put $15k on our mortgage and take an all-inclusive vacation to Mexico! It’s gorgeous and is perfect for me! πŸ™‚

Anyway, people will always think those around them are not as happy as they are. Looking down on you for having a 1/3ct diamond ring and pretending you must be disapointed with it is their way of making them feel better about spending loads of cash on a bigger rock.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a friend who asked for a received a very tiny chip of a diamond engagement ring. It always made me smile how proud she was of it. Who cares what the carat size is or who thinks what. Anyone that is worth anything will be able to see how in love with it you are and it won’t matter to them how big it is.  Sometimes size is just compensating for something lacking elsewhere πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@DeathByDesign:

 

I agree with the “smart with your money” part. We also did the same. We wanted to buy a ring that was paid for in cash. It’s a diamond, but we made sure to pay cash for it. One of my BM’s just financed her e-ring at Tiffany. 13K and she’s paying interest on it. I don’t understand it. However, she is proving to be a Bridezilla already, so I have a long year and half ahead of me with her wedding planning! LOL! Anyway:

 

@FutureMrs86:

Don’t let anyone knock you down! Stay proud and just know that everyone has a story. Someone may be voicing to you some internal shiz they have built on themselves. And, maybe not. You are already a step ahead by being proud of your ring. Keep on keepin on!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I so agree with EsqBailey “Sometimes size is just compensating for something lacking elsewhere”  I knew a girl who said if she was ever proposed to with anything less than 2 carats she would say no.  Well she got her 2 carat ring along with a husband that after 15 years of marriage and two kids lives in California while she lives in Canada.  They are still married (legally).  I think I would much rather have a marriage filled with love and repsect than a ring.  I didn’t want a diamond.  I am not in awe with them like some women are, so when my Fiance asked what I wanted I told him I want a sapphire.  It is the ring of my dreams.  I get people all the time that ask me why I didn’t get a damond (I am sure they think we couldn’t  afford one).  This is an encore wedding for us both.  I put one child through college and he put three.  We own our home out right, have a 600 acre ranch with cattle and both drive new (not fancy) cars.  We could afford a diamond.  The ring should be a symbol of your love and commitment to each other, not a comment on your financial status.  I wouldn’t let people get to you.  Some people are just sad and they want others to be absorbed in their pain.  You just look at that ring and remeber you have a loving man who knows who you are and what you like.  Best of luck to all you brides!!

Post # 11
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would SO much rather have love, respect, and financial security in a marriage than a big a** ring or a big a** house. The number one reason people get divorced is money issues, so its kinda backwards to rack up debt on a ring or a wedding. Even though we’re going to be on the “for poorer” end of the “for richer or for poorer” part of of vows until I get out of grad school, we’re happy and comfortable. I think it sounds like you and your Fiance are in a great place and have a solid sense of what’s important to you and that’s all that matters! THAT is a foundation for a marriage… the size of a piece of jewelry is not.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

SIGHHH…why are people so difficult?

I knew I wasn’t 100% in love with the idea of a diamond..we looked at pearls (LOVE) sapphires, black diamonds, chocolate diamonds, etc etc etc..for months…we traveled all over the state…we shopped online. We looked at expensive ones, cheap ones, and everything in between. We showed my daughter the one we were OK with…(she believes this is the one we have..whoopsie) After all that searching, and time, and worrying about what everyone else would think if we went non traditional, we walked back into Helzberg just to see that ONE, again..and try to decide…while we were there we saw this funky little diamond, in a weird square band, and a tiny wedding band and fell in LOVEEE with it. The center is 1/3 and the rest equals it all up to be about a carat and a half. Who cares? We paid cash, and I tried to wear it out of the store…he wouldn’t let..boo. His family all loved it, my family (the downers) asked if it was real…you can’t please everyone..so please yourself! I love my ring!

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