(Closed) Why do people automatically think they get a plus one?

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Ugh, I’m sorry. The only people who asked to bring dates were people who were in relationships (that we didn’t know about or didn’t exist when we made the guestlist). We said yes to those, but if single people asked to bring dates I don’t think it would have gone over well…and if their PARENTS asked to bring dates for their kids? Weird.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Whoa, dates for a kid in high school? Um, no.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I got asked by an acuaintance of mine – no, not close friend, not family member, someone who I wasn’t even planning on inviting – that she “expected” to have an invitation for her new bf. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

we had a small wedding of 50 ; I made sure I told my friends in their invite no dates because its a small party of 50 only closest family and some local friends;I only let two bring escorts, one was married the other was in a  serious relationship  that was it; everyone else was casually dating

 

the ones I had a hard time was 3 couples had kids, I just let them bring them, the one couple I stay with when I skiied in vermont, the other was my cousin whose wedding I went to and the other was another cousin’s son; those were the only ones who I was iffy about; but still they were close friends and family I didnt want to offend and refuse;we eventually wound up with a party of 60;not too badly out of hand

 

good luck and be strong!just say no; they can always save their ticket for another trip within a year; not your fault they assumed, they should know better

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re struggling with this too! I think it’s a common problem. If people only knew that if we gave everyone a +1, we would have a 350-person wedding. And the funny thing is, a lot of these people would probably want to go to an “intimate” wedding.

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